My GF made fun of my moms disease??

Question

My mom has Fibromyalgia. Not important as to what it is, and I'm sure some of you will respond with 'its a made up disease'. yada yada yada.

Anyways..my mom has Fibromyalgia and my GF last night says to me, "Fibromyalgia! Thats so fake."

So I said, "That really pisses me off that you said that in front of me when you know my mom has it."

So she says, "Thats my opinion."

What should I do here? She always has a comeback whenever I standup for what I believe in.

THANKS A LOT!

Answer 1

Fibromyalgia (FM) is a disorder classified by the presence of chronic widespread pain and tactile allodynia.[1] While the criteria for such an entity have not yet been thoroughly developed, the recognition that fibromyalgia involves more than just pain has led to the frequent use of the term "fibromyalgia syndrome". It is not contagious, and recent studies suggest that people with fibromyalgia may be genetically predisposed.[2] The disorder is not directly life-threatening. The degree of symptoms may vary greatly from day to day with periods of flares (severe worsening of symptoms) or remission; however, the disorder is generally perceived as non-progressive.[3]

Show her that and tell her its a real dieses and she should f off and then break up with her

Answer 2

Your girlfriend sounds like an immature *****. You should dump her and find someone who has a little compassion.

Answer 3

I know fibromyalgia isn't fake, but I do not know anything about the disease??

Like what it is.

But I would just ask her why she thinks it's fake, and tell her like it is your mother, and you watch her suffer for it, and know it is not fake!!

Just tell her how you feel about it, and if it bugs you that much, then you should break up with her. I know it sounds like it would be stupid to break up with her over that, but if she doesn't care for your feelings or sensitive areas, then she doesn't care much about you.

Answer 4

I'm not sure why you would want to be with such an insensitive person. Have a talk with her and tell her that if she truly cares about you then she should care about your family also, which means not mocking your moms medical condition. It sounds like she can dish it out but she can't take it. If she doesn't value your feelings enough to censor her mouth, she's probably not worth your time.

Answer 5

shes not a nice gal, have a nice talk with her.

Answer 6

that would p**s me off too.

Talk to her about it, and be firm about how you feel about her talking about your mom that way.

If she doesn't shape up.....dump her....you dont need someone that cant be understand and consider of other people's feelings. Cuz sooner or later you will need her to take care of you when you are sick...and who knows if she will make you feel better?

Answer 7

i think maybe u should talk to her but if she's rude maybe she's not the right one for you

Answer 8

You have to stand up for your family. And tell her that she is really crossing the line and she needs to respect you and your family members.

Everyone has an opinion, but with this kind of situation and with all situations actually, she has to use her head before saying something especially if it is involving someone who is very dear to you.

Answer 9

Dump her!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 10

I am so sorry that your mom has this.  I know it can be painful.  I know some people that have it.  That is totally wrong of your GF to say that.  Have her talk to a DR or you can just say to her that if you are not going to support me then we need to spend soem time apart until you can be with me.  

Answer 11

She may hold the opinion that it's fake, but it's not a matter of opinion, it is a medical reality that Fibromyalgia is very real.  In my opinion, she sounds like a brat with no respect for you, and maybe none for herself. I myself have fibro,  related to some other conditions. As an adult, I dumped friends , even lifelong ones, who acted  so ignorant. Life is short, but now is a good time to re-evaluate that relationship. Remember that you can chose your friends.

Answer 12

My mother-in-law had it. She passed away, actually, not coz of that though. It's quite real. I hate when people say it's fake. It's like saying lupus is fake or blood cancer is fake. Tell her that next time she says something so insensitive.

Answer 13

Fibromylagia is a real physical debilitating disease. it's painful and exhausting. and muscles. are weak.

Fibromyalgia is a chronic condition characterized by widespread pain in your muscles, ligaments and tendons, as well as fatigue and multiple tender points — places on your body where slight pressure causes pain. Fibromyalgia is more common in women than in men. Previously, fibromyalgia was known by other names such as fibrositis, chronic muscle pain syndrome, psychogenic rheumatism and tension myalgias.

The site below will give more info on this chronic condition:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fibromy...  

You need to educate your grilfriend about ths illness.  Maybe, you can pull up a lot of reading materials on this illness.  So she'll understand and be informed and be sympathetic and  tolerant of your mom.

Now, OCD is a type of anxiety disorder. Teens with OCD become preoccupied with whether something could be harmful, dangerous, wrong, or dirty — or with thoughts about bad stuff that might happen. With OCD, upsetting or scary thoughts or images, called obsessions, pop into a person's mind and are hard to shake

These steps can in no way completely stop obsessive behavior, but they can give you a good start with your  OCD:



Step1 Educate yourself. This is probably the most important step in lessening the affects of OCD. Knowledge is power and understanding the problem will help you deal with it. Check out books at the library, read articles on the Internet and learn all you can.

Step2 Most people believe that in order to stop obsessing over something they need to think about something else entirely. This isn’t necessarily true. Allow yourself to think about whatever you’re obsessing over, but don’t allow yourself to act on that obsession.

Step3 Telling yourself you won’t think about something is like holding candy in front of a small child. Your brain will dwell on that subject all the more because you’ve told yourself not to think about it. Go ahead and think about it, and then write about it.

Step4 Keep a journal just for your obsessive thoughts. Once you have written about what is hounding your mind go on to do something else. Writing about your obsession will not totally wipe out that anxiety, but it will lessen the relentlessness of it.

Step5 Stop yourself from reacting to obsessive thoughts and this will reduce obsessive thinking. A good example: when you get ready to leave the house, if you feel the need to check the front door to make sure it is locked, allow yourself to check it only twice today. Tomorrow, check it only once. Do this type of exercise with your obsessions and over time you will find they will become less intense. With each success you will feel more in control. This is called behavioral therapy.



Step6 Try family therapy. Getting your family involved will give you support and help. Once they learn about your disorder and understand what you are trying to do, they can help remind you of the treatment and planned outcome. Get your closest friends in on this too. The more support you have the better.

Step7 Spend more time with family and friends. An obsessive disorder can lead to isolation. Don’t allow this to happen.

Step8 Do things that help you relax such as yoga, meditation, getting a massage or reading. These are mentally calming relaxation practices and will help you eliminate unwanted thoughts

Maybe your girflriend is verbalizing that you don't believe in her disorder.The two of you should read the above to learn more about her illness

   http://www.ehow.com/how_2192830_stop-obs...

You are really between a rock and a hard place with your mom and girlfriend .  It requies a lot of understanding, education and patience.  Standing up for your rights is good.  You wouln't want a doormat for a partner.; would you ?

Answer 14

First you should document yourself in depth about the disease.Then the next time this ignorant egotistical brat makes one of her stupid statements you should ask her how it is possible for a human to fake the absence of an important chemical compound in his central nervous system and whether she thinks that Ari Onassis, Lou Gehrig and Stephen Hawking all deserve Oscars for faking the disease.

And if you decide to go on with this noble hearted person you have some surprises coming in the future.