My Girl friend and i are having a baby?

Question

My Girl friend and i are having a baby?

2 months ago My Girl Friend had s*x and we are going to have a baby. We are both 14 years old

Her parents are not going to be happy. They might even kick her out.

What is the best way to tell her Parents?

My Parents wont be happy but they will help any way they can.

what will be the best way to tell my mom and dad?

We both want to keep this baby

My Girl friend doesn't want to stay at her home, She saw what her oldest sister went thru Her Parents are kinda mean

Answer 1

Well if you are the one with supportive parents, I would have her move in with you guys. Just tell them, its the best way to go. There is no easy or sugar coated way to tell them.

Answer 2

Wow only 14 shouldn't be having s*x in the first place. Now all st of parents are going to be p**s because not only do they have too support their kids now the grandchild that is not fair. You and your little gf cannot move in together due to the fact that both of you are still children. BAbies having babies very nice. How good of people are you anyways having s*x after knowing each other for 10 days that is grows. See this is why people get upset because now we tax payers have to support your unborn child bc you guys cant. Do not have s*x with anybody for the next century

Answer 3

I hope this is a joke, but if it isn’t, because sadly there are people out there this…unintelligent (I’m trying to use ‘nice’ words)…

There’s no easy to tell either set of parents.  Just do it.  But if I were the parents (hers or yours), here would be my questions, so you might want to have responses prepared (by the way, I’m assuming you live in the US):

--First, do you realize you’ve broken the law?  In every single state 14 is below the age of sexual consent, so it was illegal to have s*x.

--Second, how do you intend to support this child?  Babies cost a lot of money, and at 14, you can’t work more than a few hours a day (those pesky child labor laws).   Do you intend for your parents to support the child?  Or maybe you intend for the taxpayers to support it?  If so--how very mature.  And just FYI, your parents are not required to provide one penny of support for this child, that is entirely YOUR responsibility.

--Third, who’s going to take care of this child while you’re in school?  The law in every state says a 14-year-old MUST attend school.  There’s no way around that.

--Fourth, do you know a darn thing about taking care of children?  If not (and I’m pretty sure your ‘parenting abilities’ are very limited), what’s your plan on how to learn these skills?   (please, for the love of God, don’t say “We’ll learn as we go”)

--Fifth, are you ready to give up every minute of freedom that you have?  Because *I* would not be babysitting this child while you go out and have a ‘social life’ so get to give it up completely.

And if I were YOUR parents, I’d be adding this—there WILL be a paternity test.  You don’t know that this baby is yours.  You’ve known her 3 months and she’s 3 months pregnant--grow a brain.  Maybe the child’s yours, maybe it’s not.

Finally, Girlfriend doesn't get to leave home because her parents are ‘unhappy’ that their 14-year-old CHILD is pregnant, so she can forget that idea right now.

If you truly want to be responsible here and put the best interest of the child above everything else (which is what all parents are supposed to do), then you seriously need to consider adoption, because you lack the financial ability, and more importantly, the maturity (and I can see that just by the post), to be parents.

Answer 4

Ugh, you're in for a bumpy road my friend.

Having a child is so much more complicated than you can understand, you're a child yourself. What the real question is, can you handle the baby? At 14, you will basically have to fully rely on your parents to take care of the child until you're 15-16 and can get a job. Babies are not cheap, you know. You might want to highly consider adoption, as there are a lot of unfortunate people in this world who are unable to have a child of their own. Don't get so worried about it either, adoption isn't as bad as it seems. You can still keep in touch, and have a relationship with a child. Besides, this is not about what you want, focus on what is best for the baby. Are you willing to come home, and take care of a baby for the rest of the day until you have to work, go to school and then take care of the baby too? A child IS a blessing, but it's not easy, even parents struggle taking care of a child.

There's no way to break it to your guy's parents without making you look bad. There's just no way. You parents will be mad probably no matter what strategy you try to come up with. For that matter, sit them all down together when the night is going well and let them know. By that time, you should be 100% sure on whether you're keeping the child or giving it up for another couple. Do what you think is best, but you should really think deeply upon it. Read some articles about other young adults experiencing this situation and see how it is.

Goodluck, I hope you learned a lesson even though your girlfriends sister wasn't enough.

Answer 5

honesty is the best policy.

go together and tell the truth.

good luck... YOU ARE GOING TO NEED IT!!!!!!!

in a very little while you will not be together BUT YOU WILL BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE NEXT 20 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!! so you better get out and get a job.   ENJOY and try not to make any  more babies that you can not afford to support!!!

Answer 6

Again dude... you've asked this question three times.

First of all, your grammar reminds me of sh*t so obviously when you don't even know basic English, your definitely not ready to have a baby.

You posted one year ago that you wanted to cross dress at age 13.

How'd the cross dressing go for ya freak? Guess it didn't work out since now you have a girl pregnant.

Accept your consequences. You make a stupid mistake having s*x that young of an age. Now you gotta grow a pair and buckle down if you want this baby. Good luck being the laughing stock in high school. And good luck trying to manage college and a baby with that little income.

Put a rubber on it next time... hopefully that'll be in 5+years

Answer 7

wow, you're fourteen and had s*x after knowing each other for 10 days?  That's so disgusting.

congratulations on your baby.  I hope you put it up for adoption so that people more responsible than yourselves can raise it.

Answer 8

You will both have to inform your parents as soon as you can. She is only 14 and may not have the option of  leaving home. I am so very sorry for all of you this is not the way for any child to begin life. You and your girlfriend are only babies. everybody in this situation needs to see a social worker and therapist. No wonder her parents are kind of mean, I wouldn't want this for my daughter. Are you or your girlfriend thinking about the baby?, how you will be able to live and raise a child? Get help tell all of the parents now.