My Girlfriend Is Bone Idle,How Do I Change This!?!?

Question

I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 19 and we have a 2yr old son.I work a 9-5 and she stays at home with our son although she starts college in a few days.I appreciate it's hard work looking after a child but i know a couple single mums that cope very well.I am a clean and tidy person who enjoys living in a clean house.She doesn't do hardly anything around the house so when i finish work every day i have to do house work and don't sit down until 10pm in the week.There's always a pile of washing up for me as soon as i get through the door and the washing basket is never empty.She always expects me to cook the tea and wash up after but in my up bringing we were all equal in that way an did our share.She complains about having a bad back so she can't bend over to do any washing and she say's she hates having wet hands so washing up is a no.I suggested getting her rubber gloves and she also had an excuse for that to.I'm just so exhausted from it all and even when i bring it up about doing stuff around the house causes arguments and i get called a selfish t*!t and told there's more to life than cleaning which i agree but these things need to be done else we basically would be living in our own c**p.Anyone that could give me MATURE tips,advice or any help on how i can get her to help abit more around the house would be very much appreciated.

Thanks.

Answer 1

Tell her to stop being lazy. There are many mother who work go to school & still come home & clean their house, I would know I'm one of them. I also have two children & don't have a boyfriend to help me out. She's lucky she has you. She needs to do what she can to keep you. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

I think your heading for a set of problems here once she starts college. First of all Mrs. Nice needs to study, prepare for exams, homework, and all that nice stuff. After that she needs to take care of the baby or the boy (you didn't say exactly what): Then, she will want for you to give her money to spend at school or necessities for the child. I think she's looking at you rather than a partner, a father. Me and my husband are going through the same thing except he doesn't work. I work, study and pay the rent and the bills. He, in the other hand, takes care of the baby, washes the clothes, cooks, cleans, and in his free time, he sells clothes, or used stuff. He helps me out with the diapers, toilet paper, well you get the point. I don't work everyday, because I'm a substitute teacher, but I try to help him by not making mess. I help him and he helps me, we make up for what the other can't do. I think your girlfriend is taking advantage of you and your kindness. Don't fall into this trap. Suggest that she finds a job in college such work study. Make her help with money too. Make her wash her clothes and do her own cooking. She's old enough for that. Put your foot down or else once she starts college she'll leave you the baby too. Good Luck.

Answer 3

She starts college in a few days? Give her all the encouragement you can, tell her you can't wait until she turns her college degree into a $$$ job, so you can afford to hire a housekeeper.