My Girlfriend is cutting herself...?

Question

she is cutting herself but she does not know that i know she is doing it.... i dont know how long she has been doing it for... i first noticed it about three months ago... there were cuts on her thigh i did not say anything but i dont know if she saw me see them or not.. we have never talked about... but every once in a wile i ask her how she is, she always says she is fine but i am worried... what can i do if she does not know i know...

Answer 1

Telling her school counselor is another option.  Counselors are trained to handle this and also have many avenues to get her help.  You are a good friend for caring so much to help her.

Answer 2

"Accidentally" discover some scars and ask her what it is. You must confront her and she needs help. Not only does it cause ugly scars, but can cause a serious infection. It is a sign of a severe emotional problem. Please get her some help!

Answer 3

Confront her about it. You need to get help for her if she is doing that. If she denies it and won't talk to you about it and you're sure she is cutting herself, you need to tell an adult (assuming you're a kid) or her parents if you know them. But don't go telling any one if you are not absolutely positive about it.

Answer 4

I would sit down and talk to her about it. tell her you know something is wrong and that you want to help her. My ex killed himself and trust me it is not easy going through something tramatic as that.

  she could be doing it becuz she wants to feel the pain on the outside instead of on the inside. I am not sure but that is what i find it to be. some people do it for attention but i dont believe so.

   I really think you should talk to her. when my ex told me he was thinking about suicide I didnt believe him. he seemed so happy but I was way wrong. sometimes i even feel it was my fault.

         PLEASE TALK TO HER AND TELL HER YOU CARE

Answer 5

You should talk to her about it. Just mention some times when you've seen cuts and scars and tell her that you're really worried about her. Sometimes cutting is a cry for help. She might need someone to talk to about things that are making her upset and causing her to cut. If she's been cutting often for a while she probably can't just stop but talking to her about it might help her want to stop. You should encourage her to see a psychiatrist that can help her cope with whatever making her cut herself.

Answer 6

What makes you think that the cuts on her thigh were intentionally self inflicted? Cuts and abrasions can happen just about anywhere. There are many other questions that need to be answered before you assume that she is cutting herself. Is she depressed? Does she have a history of cutting? Be careful.... and do a bit more research first. I recommend asking her directly- you might be surprised at the answer you'll get. Then, you can proceed from there.

Answer 7

please confront her about it this is a very serious thing she can seriously hurt herself.

Answer 8

you have to get her to talk to you... just bring it up one day when you are lone and tell her that you love her and that you dont want anything to happen to her... that you dont know what you would do with out her... then ask her about what you saw...she needs help... maybe more then you  can give her... but she is very lucky to have you... just always make sure she knows that you care about her and that you will be there for her... and if she says she does not want to get help that she will be fine... tell her that she needs to do it for not only herself but for you too... because you love her and care about her... she is sooo lucky to have you to care for her... good luck!  

Answer 9

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-harm   WOW, i cant believe how many od=f these questions are on here tonite about this, your girl was sexually abused most likely and she will continue to cut as a way to process her emotions, and eventually stop within the next 2 years. I cant leave the F***n house without longsleeves dude. Some people have issues. Dont pressure her into answers, affirm daily how special and beautiful she is and how mucj she means to you, ...of course without sounding like a dumbasss, or AKA overdoing it, or look at what BOO said above. GOOD LUCK HOMIE!

Answer 10

you need to talk to her it is VERY SERIOUS

Answer 11

you could start by asking if she's ever tried cutting herself. if she asks why, say that you saw cuts on her thigh.

self harm is a very tender topic to talk about, especially for someone to do it. she will probably feel ashamed, maybe angry. tell her your always there for her to talk to and that she can trust you.

tell her your worried about her and are concerned for her safety

Answer 12

Trust me, she knows. it may go as far back as something bad happening to her in her childhood, or teenage years, you need to tred very carefully, cos when you speak to her about it she will automatically be on the defensive and see it as an attack.

you need to get a professionals advice on how to confront her on this, then follow their advice. do some research on the issue, see what you can find on the net, talk to a health professional, councellor. good luck!!!

P.S dont let this go on any further. one wrong cut can kill her.

also make her know you love her, you will be there for her through thick and thin and you want to help her.