My Girlfriend is from Thailand,We want to get Married soon,but finding it is very expensive,any suggestions.?

Question

I am from the U.S. and she is from Thailand, I have visited Her 2 times now once in '06 and '07.. the next time I go to visit Her We want to get married.  I am a single "blue-collar" worker with a 10yr old son and only Net about $1,400/mo. My current total monthly expenses are $1,100/mo.  She does not speak English very well yet, but..she can type,read and write english pretty well..  I feel that she won't be able to work when she gets here for quite awile..   Figuring up all the costs involved in the Visa,round-trip tickets,dowry(all I would have to finance),  and then increased bills when she gets here..medical insurance,pay Her parents monthly,groceries and she also has about $3,000 in CC debt We would still have to pay.  We Love eachother so much and want to get married but, I am at My wits end trying to figure out how We could possibly make it financially.  I would really appreciate some advice in this matter.Jack    The problem is.. paying for

Answer 1

You have a ten year old son, he is who deserves you time and attention. Your net is $1,400/mo?......put off the marriage. That is the price of a mortgage payment, not including utilities, phone, car maintenance, gas, internet, etc. Why will you be paying her parents expenses? ...... Right now, just you and your son, you save a max of $300 a month.... that is not enough. You can not afford more obligations. You will get married and fight everyday about no money, cause, you don't make enough....Hard enough for you to provide for you and your son....then you'll add a wife and her parents? Do you want your son to resent you and his step mom?....

Answer 2

why do they always want to come here?  why can't you move to her country?  My suggestion to you is you better start saving.  another question how can you really know someone with just 2 visits?

Answer 3

Don't DO IT.  Your son deserves everything you can give him.  He will feel like you have done all this for some person he won't even like, he will be resentful because all of the money is going to her.  DON'T do it.  

Answer 4

Go to vegas, have a small wedding, and if not, just have your wedding at your house or if you have a big backyard, use it.

I hope I helped, Congratulations & goodluck!

Answer 5

yes I married a Ukranian, it is expensive, but, it takes about 1 yr to complete or more, you can save a little at a time, but love has a way of working things out, you may need to cut back a bit and sacrifice , but its all worth it in the end.

Answer 6

Get a part time job and save it.  I am sorry, but paying for her parents groceries?  If she wants to marry an American, they should concede to some of the Amerivan ways.

Answer 7

You can do a justice of the peace wedding now, and have a ceremony in the future. The rest of the finances you will be able to figure out in time.