My Grandfather died today what can I do for my mom?

Question

My Grandfather died today aged 81. He has been very sick lately and today he passed away. My mom is very upset because she talked to him everyday and now she will never be able to again. What can I do to make her feel reassured that one day they will be re-united.

Answer 1

Having lost parents and a child I can only give you what helped me, Just be there for her. There aren't any special  words , except I love you and I am here for you, but knowing that you care and are concerned for her feelings is the thing that  will help her most. It also helped to  still talk to them for awhile and eventually I started a journal and wrote to and about them. They still live in our hearts and dreams and yes, you will all be reunited someday. I hope the best for you all.

Answer 2

First of all just be there for her.  If you believe in the Word of God, take her to I thessalonians 4:13-18.  These are some of the most comforting

words that can be spoken to a believer.  

Answer 3

My heart is going out to you and your family! I have no words of wisdom because I've never lost anyone close to me or known anyone who lost a loved one but I can only imagine how your mom must be feeling. She is just going to have to greive, there really isn't any way around that. She lost her daddy. She is going to be sad. All you can do is be there for her.

Answer 4

There are 5 steps of the grieving process:  

You can go through each one, in order or go up one, then back two.  Let her talk if she wants to, or have silence when she wants to.  You can't take the place of your grandfather, as you have your own place. Just stand by and take hints from her. If she wants to talk, listen. If she's quiet, you be quiet. If she's angry, let her be and remember she's not angry at you.  Each day will be a new step for her, a new day trying to readjust after loosing a loved one.

Take care of yourself also. You too lost someone you loved.  

*   A Normal Life Process

    * Five Stages Of Grief

          o 1. Denial and Isolation.

          o 2. Anger.

          o 3. Bargaining.

          o 4. Depression.

          o 5. Acceptance.

    * Grief And Stress

    * Recovering From Grief  

Answer 5

I'm so very sorry for you and your family's loss.

Think of it, this way he may no longer be here physically, but he's still with you.  Since he had been sick, he's in a place where he will never be sick again. He's in a much better place.  All you can do is just be there for her when she needs you.  Give her some space and allow for her to grieve, but try not to let her pull away from others.  This is a time when she needs the support of others more than any other time.

My prayers are with your family.

L.E.R.