My Grandmother just died and I don't know what to do...

Question

My grandmother, who I loved so much just died. I feel like I don't know what to do with myself. I haven't seen my friends, even my closest friends in over a week since she died. I'm fine one minute and the next I'm a mess, I'm not much fun. I don't even feel like being around other people. I don't want to go to work, I wish I had a t-shirt that says: leave me alone, so i don't have to talk to anyone else. I'm angry, I want to see my friends but I'm afraid that to move on and make it seem real.

Has anyone lost someone they really loved before, and have any advice for me?

Answer 1

I am so sorry!!!! Yes, I know how you feel. My Grandfather died right in front of me. He had a heart attack. It will take some time. I know you don't want to be around anyone, but you need someone to lean on right now. If your friends are true friends they will let you vent your anger. You need to talk it out...believe me it feels much better to talk to someone. Again, it will take time to get over. I understand what your going thru. It sucks...really bad!!! Yes, it's real and the sooner you realize that, the sooner the healing process can begin. You do need to move on..that does not mean you are going to lose the memory of your Grandmother. She will always be in your heart and you in hers. She would not consider you commiting abandonment towards her and I'm sure would want you to move on and live your life to the fullest. I hope you feel better. Remember there are a lot of people out there that love you and want to help you, you just have to let them in.

Answer 2

yea i have n u shood talk to sum people about it instead of bottling it up

Answer 3

When you lose a lovedone like you grandmother you have to look at the whole situation of your loss and the long life she had. I understand your feelings for her loss but think about all the wonderful things she did in her life and what she left behind. You being one of her most important accomplishments. She had a long lustrious life and was not shortchanged by her passing. That's all a person can expect out of life. Instead of looking at the hardest parts of her passing try looking at all the wonderful things about her. You should be honoring her life, not you loss. You loved her very very much so be proud instead of declining into this emotional stae you're in now. Be happy for her and her memory. God bless you with more like your grandmother in your  future.

Answer 4

Its okay. Your grieving, its natural to want to be left alone in a situation like this. But whatever you do don't isolate yourself, it will only make the situation harder to deal with. Accept comfort from others, allow them to be your support. Who knows, maybe you can form a stronger bond with your friends and family through this tragedy. And don't worry its not over for you and your grandmother, please read Revelations 21:3-8. It explains that God is promising a new heaven and a new earth, a paradise where death and pain will cease to exist and everyone who died will be brought back to life. Wouldn't that be amazing, to see your dead loved one again?

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Everythings gonna be okay.