My Groom just walked out 1 day before our wedding! HELP?

Question

In 3 hours is the Rehearsal and my groom just walked out and left..He said, I can't handle all this stress it's Bullshit and your a Psycho...Mind you. I spent ALL Day driving around and buying gifts for HIS Groomsmen. Packing HIS bag for our Honeymoon and taking care of HIS tux.

He has not helped with ONE single thing when it came to the wedding...

I am not sure what I am going to do..Stressed, Tired and over whelmed.

Answer 1

It sounds like you both have a bit of life and growing up to get through before making such a commitment.  All you are thinking about is the stuff you did for him, and all he's thinking about is running away from commitment.  Both are important signs that you may need more time together before getting married.

It's awful that it's the day before, but if he's still not ready tomorrow, just throw the big party for your guests.  It's all you can do!  And politely return any gifts, of course.

Answer 2

Let it blow over, I am sure everyone is stressed, let him take a breather.  I am sure he will come back and the two of you can talk.  

EDIT: I'm glad, I think brides don't realize how much their groom gets stressed out about the big day too.  Have wonderful day tomorrow and a great honeymoon. Cngrats!

Answer 3

OH wow...this is devastating and tough!! But even tougher is to make a bad marriage and have to end it later.  As hard as it may be, this may be for the best. It really sounds as though he is not into the whole idea at all and who needs that??? I'm really sorry, but as hard as it is to call of a wedding at the last moment, it may be best. Take care and good luck!!!

Answer 4

Your fiance just walked out on your and your argument is all you have bought and done?  He is upset with you...how you are treating him, not the things you bought or did.  Most guys could care less about that c**p.  From what you have said here, it seems like you may be focusing more on the material things at the wedding rather than the real meaning of it.

I suggest going after him, apologizing, and trying to talk about things.....and think of him.  Think of his feelings, his desires, his fears.  Marriage is much more than one day.  You have an entire life after it.  Focus on this...not the one day.

Best wishes.

Answer 5

OMG!!! I feel for you and I know how you feel even though my man didn't walk out but we had postponed because of different reasons but in the long run it was good that we did! I was so stressed because I spent money for my dress etc. and my girls also ,but just know that it will work it self out!! Try to see if you can talk alone with your fiance and just let him talk it out try very hard to hear what he's saying without  you saying one word just listen. There may be something behind his madness that he hasn't shared with you and he will most likely marry you tomorrow!!!

Answer 6

Why are you on Yahoo!? You should be a) looking for him if you still want to marry him or b) have your family and friends around you to support you and do whatever you need to be done!

Answer 7

Judithia is right. This is probably a sign of things to come. Better to not get yourself legally tied to this guy than to have to untangle the mess if the marriage doesn't work out. If he's a no show for the rehearsal, I would be doing some serious thinking tonight...........

Answer 8

Did he apologize sincerely? Do you trust him? Then get married to him and have a happy life recognizing that neither one of you is perfect and full of forgiveness.

Best wishes!

Answer 9

Maybe it is just stress - still, that is no reason to act that way. He needs to learn how to deal with these things without just walking away from everything. What if you guys decide to have children and when you go into labor he decides he can't deal with the stress? That's not good and he needs to learn how to deal with that.

I would call him. You guys need to work this out. Whether or not he wants to go through with the wedding, and I'm sure he does, both of you still need to talk.

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening to you right  now. I certainly hope that you guys can talk and work things out.  

Answer 10

If he can't stand the stress of a wedding, he sure as Hel_ won't be able to handle the stress of marriage and parenthood.

Cancel the wedding and consider speaking to him again when he grows up.

Answer 11

First off, it's good that he came back.

You say you're stressed, tired and overwhelmed.  He may be feeling close to the same way.  You may be doing a lot of the leg work, but he may have his own stresses he's dealing with.  First off, you are probably spending a lot of money on the wedding and honeymoon, and men worry about money.  A lot.  He may be worried about making you proud tomorrow.  He wants to be your perfect partner when you marry, and he may be doubting himself and feeling inadequate.  He may be nervous about being in front of a lot of people.

It sounds like both of you need a little break.  Why not spend a little time tonight just being a couple?  After your rehearsal is over, cut out as early as you can and come home and cuddle together as boyfriend/girlfriend for the last time.  Take some deep breaths and remind each other why you want to spend the rest of your lives together.

Good luck!

Answer 12

I think Lilly has the right idea, let the groom cool off, this is a very stressful time, given that we do not know the details of your relationship I can only imagine he just needed some time to himself. I would give him an hour to get himself together and then calmly talk it over--call him in an hour, not immediately, allow him to calm down! I know this is difficult as your rehearsal is in a few hours but I think he really needs a moment---as I am sure you do :) Weddings are stressful!

I think you should both focus on the marriage you both want and not what anyone has or hasn't done... if who has done more leading up to this wedding is more important then it's probably for the better if he does leave. Given the info you provided it really just seems like he's immature and is trying to scare you. When you talk to him forget about who did what and focus on whether you both want to proceed with a life together.

Answer 13

it's a sign, go watch Maid of Honor, and contemplate your options.  

Answer 14

Believe or not, eventually you will glad you saw his "true colors" now. It would have been a lot worse if he had waited 3 years and left you with a mortgage and a small child. It is better to have loved and lost than to be stuck with some SOB that doesn't really care about you.  

Answer 15

were you showing your true colors by being a  b**ch ?

maybe you scared him off

did you overwhelm him ?

alot of women dont understand what goes on in a guys head before getting married, we have one h**l of a time with everything going on, all of the catty women, arrangements, parents etc etc...its a miracle any man actually goes through with it !

give him a break, despite you thinking you are the one doing it all ( probably because you want it YOUR way ) he is going through alot too.

talk to him and see if theres anything you can do

remember its about the TWO OF YOU not about all of the ceremony , reception and all of that B.S. !