My HTB bought a wedding set but i was thinking of a differnet band is that ok to not use the wb from the set?

Question

He bought a gorguous enganement ring it was a snowflake set diamond with two celtic crosses of either side the band has the same design - the rock when looking for his bans i found several bolder older style ring design that would fit me better im a student planning on becoming an m.e. an the points on the ring sometimes strach me and get caught on things my mother in law says i have to wear the band he bought i just wanted outside opinoions

thanks

Answer 1

wear what works for you! I took my engagement ring off during anatomy and physiology dissections because the stone tore my gloves which is unsanitary and can be dangerous to you as a M.E. I'm sure that your husband to be will understand this. as for the MIL tell her that you appreciate her point of view and took it into consideration but that you (and your husband) have opted to purchase a second ring for practical reasons. this is your ring, your wedding, and your marriage so she should accept this and leave well enough alone

Answer 2

Just talk with your HTB.  Explain why you want another band...not because he chose badly but because it's impractical for your job.  Explain that you love the ring and will wear it when you get a chance but need something else for working times.

Many people who have physical jobs like that choose to have two wedding rings.  One is a "dress ring" for when you are just going out, then a simple stoneless band for working.  There is no reason you can't do the same in this situation.  During the wedding he just slides both onto your finger so they have the same sentimental value as your "wedding ring".  During the reception wear the dressy band.

Just be understanding and delicate how you approach everything.  Men's egos can bruise so easily and lord knows how long he spend finding you such a unique piece.

Answer 3

I think I may have an idea as to a compromise that would please everyone involved.

Use the band he bought with the set, but ask him to buy another band and show him which one you would like.  On the wedding day (if you so choose) you may (though not necessarily, if you don't wish to) have the preacher announce (to all attendees or just so wedding party may hear) that for personal (and/or professional) reasons, a second band shall now be placed upon the ring finger of the bride's right hand (with said band being the one from his set that you will be wearing occasionally).

You can't help that the band he chose may be difficult to wear with your upcoming career.  And as long as you wear that band on at least special outings with him, then I think that the compromise may work quite well.