My High School Equestrian Team?

Question

Ok, so I'm on my high schools equestrian team... and I like most of the girls on the team... but theres a few I can't stand, and they can't stand me.

Girl 1 -- Thinks she should win every class she goes in.. and I'm not gonna lie, she is pretty good.. and she's such a snob to everyone. Even the adults notice.

Girl 2 -- Also thinks she's the best, when..I don;t want to be mean... but she;s not. She treats her mother, sister, and brother.. and even her horses horrible.

Girl 3- was the coaches favorite.. until i made the team. (not being conceited.. not at all) but now she hates me b/c she was pushed out of the limelight....

I'm going to be a freshman, so i'll be the low man on the totem pole.. but i want a TEAM, not a group of enemies working against each other.

any ideas on how to deal with these girls?

Answer 1

Theres drama no matter where theres girls, im sorry to say...

be bluntly honest with them about how you think your lack of unity is really affecting the team.

Do some "team bonding" activities, we did that with our college team and it actually really helped. We had what was like a scavenger hunt/ relay race.. it was actually really fun. ya just need get to know each other.

If they dont care to try to get along, your best off just keeping neutral as much as you can around them.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Try to be nice to them, and to make friends. The more you get to know them, and them you, the easier it may be. There are reasons for people acting the way that they do. Try not to judge, and get to know what's underneath the skin.

If making friends doesn't previal, just ride your best, have fun, and don't worry about anybody else!

Answer 3

Be as nice as you can, no matter what. It may be hard at first, but just keep at it. Eventually if they are sensible enough people, they will see that you really aren't there to push them aside and take the spotlight. I mean, don't go and be their best friend, but when the time comes and they talk to you, be cordial and personable. The two that think they are the best on the team, show them up. Ride as best as you can and deflate their egos!

Answer 4

Wow!

You're lucky you HAVE an equestrian team in your high school...

Not a hope for my school getting one, although I would love one.

Anyway, to answer your question, girls can be nasty in any situation, but (in my experience) girls who ride/own ponies, whatever, CAN be a lot worse. Obviously I'm not generalizing, I ride, but that's how it is sometimes. Try to be friendly, be the bigger person, but if that doesn't work then don't waste your breath on them.

Maybe talk to the team manager, and/or the other team members, see what they say?

Just enjoy the riding, that's what you're there for!

Good Luck! :)

Answer 5

I know it is quite stressful dealing with these kind of people, believe me, I know.  Just be as nice as you can to them, they might tick you off now, but in the long run it will be better for all of you.  As other people have already said, you don't have to be their friends, but you can talk to them.  What I have learned from horse people is that there are some that are really cool ones, ones do stuff for you and help you, and are just all around great people...then there are some that just have a nasty attitude, not like curse you out kind of attitude, but the kind that makes them think they own the place and they are by far superior to you, like you are very honored to be sharing a barn with them...ya right (excuse me while I go shot myself in the head...).  You will have to put up with people like this your whole life (I believe my mom now!) and honestly, there is nothing much you can do about it.  Hopefully you will be able to get this all sorted out in the end.  Good luck!

Answer 6

First off that's awesome that your school has an equestrian team!! And congrats on making it as a freshman. So here's how I'd deal

Girl 1:: If she's good let her know.. BUT give her something to think about.. hint an imperfection such as "Awesome job but your release on fence 8 was kinda funny but you really are a great rider." Make her feel good but don't give her a big head. Just by giving her some attention her snob act will just make her feel stupid.

Girl 2:: You can't really control her home life but when she does something  mean to the horse like not being forgiving or not giving it proper care just be nice and not fake and be like "Aren't you going to do this?" And if she says no.. ask why as if it's some new age idea she has (not fake your just wondering).

Girl 3:: Just prove to her your not out to get her and she'll see with time.

Overall it doesn't really sound like those people really dislike you (except the one girl but maybe she's only jelous but doesn't really not like you) and people on teams usually get frusterated with eachother at times.. just remember what you all have in common.. you love horses [:

Answer 7

There is a girl like that on my 4-H group that sounds exactly like  all those girls. honestly there is nothing you can do, you could tell them how you feel but that either just makes them mad or they dont listen. You just have to be nice, you dont have to be there friend or anything just leave them alone unless they talk to you just act friendly.

Answer 8

huh? i didnt know there were equestrian teams as highschools. man i wish my school would get one! i love riding my horse!

srry not very helpfull best of luck though!