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Question

Is my husband controlling or not? He tried to tell me the other day what color should I use to color my hair. Today we were eating dinner and he said you bit your fork when you eat don’t do that and moved his head. Why is he like this he was never like this when we were dating. Married 2yr he is 33 I’m 24.

Answer 1

I would not necessarily call him controlling, but I definitely think something is on his mind. Sometimes I go through moods where I nit pick at my husband and I shouldn't. This is usually because something much bigger is bothering me, and it is not really the little things. I would sit him down soon and ask him how he is feeling about you and your marriage. Make sure he understands your concerns and how he is making you feel.  

Answer 2

sounds a little controling, talk to him about it, his imput is welcome but only as condstructive, tell him it bothers you. Both of those issues are pretty small to be nit picking over

Answer 3

i wouldnt really call what you've described as a big deal. You are quite a bit younger than him, ..and less mature, (in life i mean, not as an insult), but i dont see anything "controlling" with just that.

the hair color thing, ..maybe its just his preference on you, and theres nothing wrong with him telling you what he likes, most guys could care less!  

Answer 4

Oh my goodness. You're scaring me with this... I'm 23 this year and I was about to accept a guy (for a date) who's 10 years my senior. Are all guys who are older, react this way?

Hmmm, I guess your hubby is just having a bad day... Why don't you try to talk to him? Maybe something is bothering him? :)

Answer 5

He was nit picking on you, and now you are nit picking about him. Both of you need to cut it out!

Answer 6

Sudden criticism or annoyance is a sign he's cheating. Keep an eye on him!

Answer 7

Why you think he married you, you are a babe he is a control freak.

Answer 8

it doesn't matter what we think.  it matters what you think.  you have a big age difference and he's treating you like a child.   nip that in the bud and let him know that you are an adult and he has to show you the same respect he would show any other adult.  I'm sure he doesn't think it is ok to say these things to a 50 year old woman.  you deserve the same respect.

and if he does things that bother you, you have to speak up.  if you don't it will all bottle up and explode some day.  better to get it out in the open and allow him the opportunity to grow into a better spouse.  if not you'll resent him and blame yourself.

Answer 9

He doesn't sound that controlling. If could be that he is just aggravated or has pet peeves. Does he do more than this? Is it all the time? Are they hurting your feeling to hear them? These are the questions you should ask yourself and go from there. Try asking him why he says those things and explain that they are making you feel uncomfortable. And then if it gets to bve more often suggest you go to counseling and try to work it out. Good luck.

Answer 10

How do you feel when he says these things would be my first question. I would not consider my husband controlling, but if I did something that grossed him out or if something looks good on me and he likes it he will let me know. He is very open about his likes and dislikes, just like I am. It could be the hair color is just a preference and the scraping the fork on the teeth bothered him. It would actually sends a chill down my spine. I noticed there is a little bit of an age difference between you both, it could be that he is more secure and more willing to say what's on his mind. Be open with him, ask questions about why he feels the way he does and if it is reasonable then stop, compromise, or do what you want. Good luck ; )

Answer 11

He is being mean because you are letting him. Stand up for yourself and DEMAND respect. You will be better off.

Answer 12

um, with the hair thing i think he wasn't being controling

he sees you everyday

and about the dinner thing maybe he just had a bad day or sumthing

Answer 13

He's not controlling. He just treat u like a child. My husband did the same. We have 10 year gap. We got through that pace because i told him that i have my mind of its own even if I'm  10 years younger than him. Talk to him and make him know what are u feeling on his actions.  

Answer 14

I don't think the fork thing is a huge issue.  That is a really annoying sound and I have asked my husband to stop when he was doing it and it was no big deal.  I don't agree with the hair thing though, as long as you were dying it a normal color and not like pink or purple then who cares?