My Husband Spends most of his time with his friends. He comes late at night.?

Question

My Husband Spends most of his time with his friends. He comes late at night. he doesn't cares about my feeling.What do i do to gain his attention ?

Answer 1

This is so common, I have been married for 16 years, and you are so common in your marriage.

Just communicate with him and tell him how you feel, communication and talking and love and trust are keys to a healthy, loving, marriage.

Just talk to him, no hissy fits, or arguing, or finger pointing, or blaming, or accusing, just talk.

Communicate, communicate, communicate!!!

That is the key!!!

Answer 2

"whats good for the goose is also good for the gander" meaning you start spending times with your friends and come home late or not at all and see how he feels.  Sorry, before doing this, try talking to your spouse and let him know you feel.  If this doesn't work, try doing him the same way he does you.

Answer 3

File for divorce..that always gets a man's attention. Make sure you get a good lawyer so that you can take as much $$ and property as you can.

I mean look, he's not interested in you; that's pretty obvious.  

Answer 4

Do it back on him and see how he likes it.

Answer 5

Honey, you can't! Once your husband starts to leave you and pay no attention, you just get out of the marriage...it's over and "oh' you can stay in it as long as you want, but I won't be around to tell you I told you so."

When a man leaves his wife alone and starts to come home late, he sure aint out collecting for the Redcross.

Answer 6

Communication is key.

You have got to talk to him and let him know that it is unacceptable.

Be stern.

Answer 7

What would really get his attention is if you weren't there when he got home once or twice.  When he asks you where you were, tell him you were "with friends".  It'll drive him crazy, and you can use that opening to start a dialog about reasonable limits.

Answer 8

My question is, did he do this before you got married? If so, he probably didn't think it bothered you. I agree with the above posters that said communication is key. If he doesn't know how you feel then he can't change the behavior.

Start making some plans for the two of you to do together and let him have a day or two to go out with the guys. Heck, make plans with your girlfriends to go out and have some fun while he is with his friends. You don't have to stay at home waiting for him. If it comes right down to it, why don't you go over and spend some time with him and his friends, I'm sure they would love to have the wife over to make things interesting. :D

Whatever you do, don't nag about it because that will just make him want to stay away from home. Make sure you talk to him when it is calm and not before or after he has been with his friends, he will be  angry if you do this and you will be looking for an argument.]

You need to stop making excuses about why you cannot get yourself together and stop putting it on his behavior or his family being around. You have three choices:



1. Deal with it and live the way you are living. Don't complain about something that can't be fixed.

2. Leave and stand on your own two feet(grow up). Life is what YOU make it. Stop trying to make him care when he obviously doesn't. You need to rely on yourself because no one will care about you as much as yourself.

3. Have a group discussion and tell him that you don't care for his irresponsible, childish behavior and that he needs to think of someone other than himself. Make sure you have a plan for what you expect from him. If he doesn't care, he will ignore your request which takes you back to number 2.

Answer 9

Go out rn come late en when he ask say was ouot with friends

Answer 10

We need to know about your s*x life in order to give a meaningful answer to the question.  It is possible that he is behaving that way because he is scared to be close to you.  Or, it is possible that he is angry about lack of s*x.  Or, it may be something else.

One possible route is to give him a ******** in the morning and then ask him to stick around in the evening and see what he does.  If he still goes out with his friends, at least you have probably eliminated the s*x anger possibility.