My Iranian Girlfriends mum is coming to visit. Need advice from those familiar with culture?

Question

Iranian girlfriends mum is coming - please give me advice?

My girlfriend's Iranian and her mum is coming to visit on Monday. She's not out to her family so I am being introduced as a flat mate which means my girlfriend is moving out of our bedroom. I don't mind because I understand it's hard for her because of the cultural taboo surrounding homosexuality. What I am angry about however, is that she wants me to dress "modestly" in front of her mum. For example, most of my clothes are like these;

http://www.warehouse.co.uk/fcp/categoryh...

and she wants me to wear these;

http://www.modestclothes.com/classic-mod...

I think she's being a hypocrite. She's not even introducing me as her girlfriend, so what does it matter what I wear. If her mother wasn't coming then she would expect me to wear the former stuff, but now that she's here I have to change the way I dress?!

I can't help but wonder if she's ashamed of me. I love her so much and she can't even stick up for my

Answer 1

You s**y Lesa

Answer 2

Ok so what kind of advice are you asking for exactly then? Sounds like you're after dating and relationship advice rather than advice about their culture... so maybe you should post this under Singles & Dating.

Answer 3

err well i don't know what help we can give.most people are gonna scream sinners here.but you know just speak to her and she will probably understand.why go the half mile going against religion and culture, when she could just let it all out and be truly happy.i think you should dress modestly around her though. it's just a respect thing.

shut up OMAR X.You're so NOT funny!

Answer 4

as far as my knowledge goes of iranian culture - i was married to one for many years and spent a lot of time with his family, they wouldnt necessarily think "L*****n" if two girls shared a room, however whilst ur not being introduced as girlfrient at the moment who is to say that in the future u wont be so i would be respectful and dress modestly ( i couldnt get yr link to work so couldnt see what u were talking about) i would suggest trousers and a non-low cut top would be fine, jeans even, iranians are quite westernised but retain a degree of modesty.  it can do no harm to make a good impression on yr girlfriends mum.  i can understand yr feelings i went thru a crisis for a long time wondering why i had to change my way of dressing but sometimes its better to conform . in the future u  may wish yr girlfriend to dress appropriately for an occasion. if u love her then go along with it it must be stressful for her .  good luck.

Answer 5

Either you go along with it or you'll force your girlfriend to choose between you and her mother.  Don't even go there.  If she chooses you, she'll always resent the fact that you split the family.

Answer 6

Oh my God, my girlfriend is Iranian too!

:o What a coincidence!

xD

Homosexuality is still a sin so just keep that in mind.

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Also, why are you shopping at warehouse?

I mean COME ON.

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