My Kindergarten daughter has a bully on the bus, what are some actions I can take?

Question

My daughter is 5, and has a girl that is anywhere from 2nd grade to 6th that has really been bothering her. Today actually scared me more so that I am on here asking advice from you guys. Unfortunately, it is Friday, and everyone who can help at the school is gone for the day. School has only been for 2 weeks here, and every day it has been h**l for my daughter.

First it started out her being called curse words, like sh** head, etc. Then it turned to that and this girl (sometimes another girl joins in that my daughter thinks is the bully's cousin) spitting in her eyes. That really crossed the line for me just thinking of the diseases and germs that could be passed through saliva. My fiance and I both got on the buss, our daughter pointed out the girls, and the buss driver acted very concerned, and said he will keep a close eye on them. I felt better, but uneasy. Still, it turned into spitting and cussing the remaining days.

Today, the bigger girl yanked out a handful of my daughter's hair and punched her in the arm. I am seriously pissed and upset. I'm having a hard time keeping my words from turning irrational, I'm 20 weeks pregnant and very moody.

I was fortunate to never have any bullies pick on me, and I've never done that to anyone, so it's hard for me to deal with this completely.

Do you guys have any tips or adivce for me to deal with this?

Thank you!

Answer 1

Been there done that......Call the principal let her know that your daughter is afraid. I was instructed to then call the bus company and let them know that there is a problem on ( whatever #bus) and that my child was afraid. Don't feel like you can't in my situation the same child had apparently caused trouble in the years before......Problem solved in 1 week......I hate that.....I would cringe when he stepped on the bus letting them go is hard enough never mind having a bad experience on the bus before school begins good luck to you!

Answer 2

Have her sit in the front beside the bus driver?

Talk to the school?

Threaten the bullies? >_> well I mean that as a semi-joke...semi because it's probably the best solution.

Answer 3

there is a zero tolerance bully law in the states and if you have discussed this with the bus driver and things are any different then go the school superintendent about the incident and they will track down the girl and hopefully throw her off the bus.

our bus drivers throw the kids off the bus for everything and they also should have cameras on the bus to.

Answer 4

If your daughter knows the girl's name, be sure to call the mother.  If she doesn't or the mother's just like her daughter, then ride the bus to school with your daughter or drive her to school yourself or make sure she sits up front by the driver....  This girl's a brat and if I went to that school, I'd kick her butt for you.  :)

-A sophomore.

Answer 5

That is just awful. Is it at all possible to take your daughter to school yourself for a few weeks to ease your mind and hers, it must be distressing for a 5 year old to go through that at such a young age.

You need to speak to the school as well, and don't take any c**p where they say "outside of the school, nothing to do with us" as these girls as still pupils and as such should set a good example. Ask for the girls to be dealt with or ask to speak to the parents, I am sure any normal sane parent would be horrified if they knew that their child was a potential bully.

Answer 6

Is it a school bus, and can you speak to the school about it?  

Answer 7

Since the bus driver didn't do anything about it, and honestly I would rather have him/her watching the road vs taking eyes off the road for even 10 seconds to look afraid of an accident. I am the type of parent to hop on that bus in the morning and tell the bus driver " I understand you have to watch the road for the safety of the children and can't see every little thing I would appreciate if I could go speak to this child" If he/she doesn't let you I would remind this person about the school board and recent lawsuits against bus drivers who did not protect children on the bus. To either let you speak to the child or have her sit at the front behind him (or your daughter sit behind him) I would put the fear of god into that little girl, while using proper language and such of course but still... the fear of god!

I would squat down and look her straight in the eyes at her level and really just give it to her, not yelling either of course a calm parent is far worse than an irate one..and no serious threats like Im going to hurt you but let her know if she touches your child again there will be problems and it wont be fun for her, if shes in the 6th grade and much older than your child..she will get what your saying.

IF this girl is like this shes lacking parenting or her parents are just as bad so thats a dead end. I have done this for my sister shes 8 now.. no bully has ever picked on her again, no one was around to hear what i said and I wanted it that way but she never ever bullied another child smaller than her again. Shes still afraid of me when I go visit. The only thing that worked. Parents sucked school sucked etc.

You can also speak to the school and since she has harmed your child, threaten them with a lawsuit for not doing anything, they will warn the parents that the child will have to leave the school or something. Maybe they will step up then Im not sure..

Gosh Im sorry I would loose it if anyone picked on my child, there would be no questions! Good Luck to you.  

Answer 8

Talk to the school, and the bus driver. Get the childs name and report her to the school!