My MIL lost her job, she cried to my husband (her son) now I'm scared we may end up with her being burden?

Question

I'm just so afraid I cannot live with this woman!! My husband is a product of an affair..she's all alone..all she has done her life is sleep with married men...now she's at the age where she's old and now doesn't have a job and goes to my husband like if he can fix the problemm I'm so over her...should I divorce him?

Answer 1

you're going to divorce your husband over things that your mother in law did?  are you for real?  you dont even know for sure that she's going to be your burden yet?  why not try talking to him?  this conversation is going to go much easier now than when she is standing on your doorstep with a suitcase.  try to understand that he is in a tough spot as well.  what is he supposed to do, tell his mom to drop dead?  would you be able to do that to your mother?  try to see things from his point of view.

Answer 2

You're jumping the gun a little bit.  You're not even sure if she's going to live with you, why are you so ready to divorce him?  There must be other issues here that you're not mentioning.

You really need to talk to your husband and explain how you feel.  Make sure that you don't be mean or negative about his mom or that will make the conversation a disaster.  You may want to use a counselor as a mediator.

Answer 3

Sounds like your describing my mom - except for the relationship aspect. My mom just lost her job and she's driving me crazy! She now wants to keep my son instead of sending him to the babysitter. But the babysitter takes better care of him, is closer, and he loves to go. I just can't wait til she finds a job!

My mom has no respect for privacy either. I have to lock my bedroom door to keep her out of there (there's just some things your mother shouldn't see) when she comes over.

Don't leave your husband over it. At least not yet. Talk to him, make sure he knows how you feel. Then see how things go. If he doesn't take your feelings into consideration, maybe it is time to move on.

Answer 4

tlook for a job on the internet for her

Answer 5

Maybe you should talk this through with your husband first. He probably doesn't want his mother to be a burden to both of you either.

Answer 6

Why not try getting her a place of her own, if she doesn't have one.

She is his mother.  Why not try getting along with her, instead of leaving a marriage?

Marriage is work..........may be you need to practice this.

Answer 7

no... my mom is the same way with my step-dad's mother....his mom acts as if my mom is the "other woman" in their relationship. She clings to my step-dad like there's no tomorrow and my mom HATES it. but she still love my step-dad. dont end your marriage over her.

Answer 8

Holy heck you'd divorce your husband to get away from his mother?  That's nuts, explain to him how you feel.  You do need to understand this IS his mom so if she can't live with you guys, he will feel some responsibility to help with her finances wherever else she's living.  

Answer 9

why would you divorce him because of his mother? that makes no since allot of women dont like their mother in laws just let him handle her but make it clear that you cant live with her  

Answer 10

No don't divorce him because of his mother. I think that both of you need to sit down and actually talk. It was like that for a while with my husband and his sisters. In his house they always would came to him when they had a problem because he was the man of the house. Recently, one of them tried to come and move in with us. I said NO and told him that your sisters are grown and you have a family of your own to consider. Sometimes it is just as simple as that. You guys need to really talk about his mother.

Answer 11

Talk with your husband and tell him how you feel. She is Not his responsibility and certainly Not yours. If need be seek a counselor so that it's a third party telling him this and Not only you. Good luck.

Answer 12

You need to talk this over with your husband, and see how he feels. I know and understqand how you feel. Had a crazy MIL in the past.,