My MOM is over-protected

Question

I'm almost 20 and my mom calls me 8 times a day and I'm in COLLEGE for god sakes. Even though I live at home, she comes in my room to clean up everything like I'm a little kid and I'm not.

Hack, when I'm sleeping sometimes she tucks me in

WTF????

Although she cooks 4 days a week and still give me money, she needs to let go.

Answer 1

Be thankful that you have a mom to do all those things for you. When you're all grown up you will miss it, trust me. No one in this world can love you like you momma can.

Answer 2

Sounds like it's time to move out. This may sound harsh, but if you're still living off your parents like a child then they have every right to treat you like one. She knows that you're growing up, but you're still her baby and she's probably just over-compensating for the sadness she's expecting to feel when you do move out on your own.

Answer 3

You can't complain about her being over protective when she gives you money and cooks for you. And cleans for you.

If you don't want to be treated this way earn your own money and start paying for things. Eventually earn enough money to pay for your own place. Cook for yourself. Clean your own room before your mom can.

Give yourself some responsibility before complaining how over protective your mother is.  

Answer 4

Maybe she is but that only means she loves you and wants what is best for you.  If you don't want to live this way go out on your own.  I bet you will see things a little differently then.  I do understand that you would like a little privacy.  Try this keep your room clean and then your mom won't have any reason to go in there.  

Answer 5

Hey now; be thankful you have a mother that loves you so much.  Think of those who are not so lucky.  

Answer 6

My mother's overprotective, too.  All you have to do is not pick up the phone every time she calls.  The things at home, you're going to have to get over.  The cleaning is just her way to hold on to her baby (you).  

I also feel like you could be a little more grateful that she cooks and gives you money...

Finally, how can she let go when you still live at home, eat her food and take her money?  You're basically acting the way you did when you were 10.  I'm not saying this as an insult, I just learned that moving out helped my situation a lot.  Also, here's an anecdote: for about a year after I moved out (still in the same city but miles away), my mother would call me to do her errands for her.  "Could you get me a gallon of milk?"  I did it until I realized that she's a housewife and she has a store a block away.  She just wanted to stay close to me and spend time with me.  

Just remember, it's all because she loves you and that's how she shows her love.  :)  

Answer 7

Spot on advice, Sco. Although, Sco, don't you think she'd be more likely to leave him alone if he actually acted on it and didn't just make an idle threat?

  

Son, I'm sure you're having a great time at the University, but I think it's time to put down the frisbee and take care of business.  Take her out for a glass of wine and see where things lead. GL!  

Answer 8

talk to her and tell her that you dont need it

but when she dies you wil regret that you hated it

i no i am such a good advicer im only 11

Answer 9

Doesn't sound like she's being over protective.  Sounds like she's got a kid, yes, child, that doesn't appreciate what her mom does for her.  Move out if you think your mom is crampin' your style.  I'd been out for 2 years by the time I was 20.  My mom and I are friends because we have space and distance.  And you might need to grow up a bit.

Answer 10

Get a job and move out. You want to act like a gown up, become one! You are very unappreciative. If you dont want your mom to clean your room, clean it YOURSELF. And she tucks you in because she love you. Even though you can do it yourself, she wants to do it for you.

Answer 11

I don't think she's being "over-protective". You will always be her baby, no matter what. Even when you're older and have your OWN babies. Since you're still living with her, she's taking advantage of that. The only thing that would bother me would be the calling 8 times a day, but you don't always have to answer. The other things are very, very sweet, in my opinion. Plus, you can't expect her to just clean, cook, and give you money and let that be that. That seems a little selfish to me. Be thankful for your Mother.

Answer 12

a mother will always be a mother while you live under her roof

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Answer 13

Know that she loves you, and is having a hard time with you growing up.  What you can do is sit her down and talk with her about this.  Explain how you feel, and how it is bothering you.  Try not to hurt her feelings, and set some standards about what is okay, and what is too childish.  Good luck, and god bless!

Answer 14

I wish my mom would clean my room and cook my meals.... smile.....sigh....