My Mom Thinks I'm "Emo"?

Question

For the past three years or so, all I wear is skinny jeans, jeans, and graphic tees. With the occasional skirt and shorts, of course. Now,

I've been wearing graphic tee's and jeans since as long as I can remember, but my moms just freaking out now. I wanted a new haircut, with dye. My mom has encouraged me to dye my hair since I was in 4th grade [I'm in 9th now]. And I want to dye it black, I thought this would be okay since my hair is naturally black, and I didn't want to deal with the awkwardness of having my hair be 2 colors at once [Light brown with my natural black]. My friend is 'scene' and he helped me pick out a new haircut which he says is scene, I picked one I really liked, showed my mom, and she called me 'emo'. She's been wanting me to wear makeup since 7th grade, so I just started to last year, with just eyeliner on the top lid. For the past month or so, I've been putting black eyeliner [just a thin line] on my bottom and top eyelid, sometimes putting 'wings', because I think it brings out my eyes more, and I like how it looks on me. My mom hates it though... yet she still lets me do it [only if I'm going out with my friends]. She really blew up today when I came home and had my nails and toes done. My toes were painted black, and my nails we're painted hot pink. She said I was

"becoming emo". I hate labels, I believe that I am me, and that's all I need. My friend who is 'scene' says that from the music I listen to, and the way I dress/talk/act that I have been scene for some time, which I didn't know. I don't understand, my mom lets me buy bright blue skinny jeans, purple ones too! And she asked me if I wanted my nose pierced after my friend did [Yes, I do, but I declined it].

We're going Back-to-School clothes shopping on Sunday... how am I supposed to bring her into Hot Topic? They'res there's amazing shorts with suspenders I've been wanting, and I want to grab some lliquid eyeliner.. and lots of stuff! But.. how can I bring her in? She continues to call the clothes I wear "Freak clothes" and the makeup is "Freak makeup". I'm scared she's gonna call people freaks in Hot Topic.. or wherever I shop. How can I make her accept that I dress the way I dress because it makes me feel pretty? And I put on makeup that way because I like how it looks? I have extremely low self esteem, and the way my outfit and hair looks is the only thing I like about myself.

How do I get my mom to accept me?

Answer 1

Honestly, I know the whole not accepting thing from your parents. Rather than not accepting you I think she'd wondering what direction you're going in and what it will cause you to do in your life. She's like most mothers pushing what their idea of how you should be to her onto you. I can't say that you'll be able to make her understand your point of view but try. Make sure you clearly state that you are who you are and nothing more. I found that stating things like a fact seems to make them realize I'm serious. All you can do is try. If she doesn't understand then simply state you don't want to fear anything about the subject since she can't understand. But we're all different so I don't know if this helps. But good luck!

Answer 2

Ask your mother what she wants you to wear, and tell her why you like the colors, tell her it's your choice and she can't do much about it. Tell her, emo people cut them self's and totally wear everything black, Shes got to accept you for who you are , or just ask your dad to take you :D or a family member

Answer 3

omg hot topic is like one of the best stores ever. what i do if im shopping with my 2 year older sister or my mom i just let them stay outside and choose what i want and then make them go inside and ask what they like because they might suprise you and then let em pay if you dont have a credit card yet.

Answer 4

Remind your mother that you are basically a good child.  Point out good grades, lack of pregnancies, and violations with the law.  Tell her there are plenty of parents who would love to just have clothes and apperance be the only major disagreement with their teenager.  Also, that the slothes are not revealing or S****y. Then ask her "In 20 years when non of this will really matter anymore, don't you want to be remembered as the parent who loved and supported me through all my fazes?"