My Mom found out what I did!?

Question

well, today was spent in the principals office for me. Yes Yes I know what you all might be thinking, OOOOHHHHH I got in TROUBLE! well no not really. Basically I am a self harmer, you know "hurt myself" and one of my friends saw my "marks" and told the teacher who then told another one and yadda yadda yadda...BUT any who my point is since the whole school thing is part of this "we have to make sure you wont die or disrupt the class" program here Sister whats-her-face (yes shes a nun) called my mom and told her all the jazz. Now I thought she would be really mad when she came to talk with me at school, but she was actually pretty good about it (even though she was telling me to hide them better next time then supporting me about the problem) and the nun suggested out of school counseling (basically she thinks I'm a wako who needs therapy) so I have no idea what to do now, or if my mom will consider putting me in therapy so my question is: what should I do?

Answer 1

Go to therapy and apply yourself. Self-harm is no good.  It leaves scars and is most certainly not healthy.  Also getting to the bottom of what the problem really is might help.

Answer 2

You should consider talking to someone. You aren't a "wacko" but you deserve some therapy to talk about why you harm yourself. There is always a reason, and you should talk about it, figure it all out. No place better to do that than a therapists office where they won't judge you or look down on your for it. It sounds as if your mom either already knew, or simply doesn't care at all. Either way, it was nice that she didn't get mad, but her reaction was a pretty bad one. Your mom should have been worried about why you harm yourself, and what kind of stress you are under, and what sort of pressure you are under, not just trying to remind you to look good in front of others. Hiding it better next time isn't going to help anything, because your friends will still be worried. The one that told your teacher was probably afraid you would kill yourself, which I know you probably aren't considering but they made that connection. What you may not realize is that you don't have to harm yourself, you can figure out how to deal with stuff without doing that, and find comfort in things that don't hurt you. It may not sound entirely appealing, and it may not be what you decide to do, but going to a therapist, who won't judge you, to talk about it, and see your options, isn't going to hurt.