My Mom is willing to giving me her wedding ring set but I'm not sure if I want it.?

Question

I don't want it because it's gold and I hate gold..plus it's not going to be this big surprise from my boyfriend and that's a really big deal to me. but then again I love my mom and they also belonged to her mom it would mean a lot for me to get something that has been passed down. I just need some opinions. thanks.

Answer 1

Just take it as a memory of her. And if she asks why you don't use it or wear it just tell her you don't want to lose it, or that it means so much.

It would mean a lot to her if you took it and one day, believe it or not, it will mean something to you even just to look at OR hand down to your kid. And by then it will WELL be worth some major bucks then too.

Treasure it like it was your mom, and one day it might be all you have left of her.

Answer 2

ask your mom if you can change it to white gold or any other kind.??

if that would be okay.

because my mom has been married for 7 years and on her next anniversary she wants  to change her ring to white gold.

haha..

Answer 3

I hate gold too. I have jewelry from my family that I don't like and don't wear but I keep them for sentimental value because they meant a lot to the people who gave it to me. You can keep them or see if your mom would mind you changing the band to white gold, silver or whichever you want.

Answer 4

Jewelry that has a story is wonderful to have.  My MIL gave me her super ugly ring (gold nugget setting!  eww!)  that was set with a lovely diamond from her own engagement ring, along with several rubies that her own grandmother (my husband's great grandmother) brought with her from Germany.  I had the diamond reset into a gorgeous white gold filigree bezel setting surrounded by small rounds (this was my engagement ring until I got married; now I wear it on my right hand).  I had the rubies set into a white gold filigree band for my wedding ring.  I love both pieces more than anything my husband could have bought because it was awesome to know that my MIL trusted me with her legacy jewelry.  (As for the surprise element -- the timing of the proposal was enough of a surprise.  And it was hella fun designing my own rings!)

This is a long way of saying, take the wedding set.  Reset the stones to a design you like.  You will still be part of the family tradition, and you will remember your mom's love every time you look at them.  

Answer 5

Well, do you have a sister or brother or a cousin who is very close to your mother?  If so, then it could be passed down to one of them if you don't take it.  Also, someone else may actually like the setting more than you.  If there is no one else for your mother to give the ring to, I think you should take it.  Perhaps you could bring yourself to wear it for a year and then have your husband give you another for your first anniversary.  Or you could wear it on your right hand.  I wouldn't do anything to change the setting.  That would change the value as an heirloom.  

Something else I would consider is the state of your parent's marriage.  It they had an unhappy marriage, then I would be reluctant to take the ring as my wedding band.  However, if their marriage was something to admire, I would be happy to take the ring.  that may sound superstitious, but I can't help it.  

Honestly, family tradition is important to me.  Even though I would never select the set my mother has, loving both of my parents as I do, I would be honored if my mother offered me her rings.  I would wear them proudly.  Even though they were not selected by my fiance, they are a gift from my mother that will bless our wedding.    

Answer 6

it is a family heirloom you should take and wear it anyway because later you can get the orignal setting put into a different metal

Answer 7

Just weigh what is most valuable to you...do you hate gold more than you love an heirloom?  You will have to wear it everyday for the rest of your life so you should like it.  Personally, I'd like my ring to be from my husband, as it's a symbol of our love, not a mom's love for her daughter.  But keep in mind that your boyfriend may not get you the perfect ring, either.

Answer 8

Your hating gold is the problem.  However, I had white gold when I wed and not too many years later switched to gold. We DO or CAN change our tastes over time!

I'm sure you can find a jeweler who can incorporate the metal and stones from the rings into a new pendant or earrings.

Then on your wedding day you can wear your mothers (rings) and your own rings.  Start a tradition!

Answer 9

Here's a suggestion, you can actually graciously accept her ring, but ask her if she would mind if you had the ring dipped in white gold, because you prefer white to gold. If she says she's fine with that idea, I would ask her to offer it to your boyfriend so he can have it dipped and then he could give the ring to you when he was ready. I take it your boyfriend and you have already discussed getting engaged; because otherwise it would surely put the poor guy on the spot if he wasn't intending on asking you to marry him anytime soon. If it is a wedding set, he may want to have the ring taken apart so he can put the engagement on your finger first before adding the wedding band part when you get married. Hope this info. helped. I will have to do the same for my daughter when she finds her special someone someday, but she will be using her grandmother's ring that is in yellow gold and soddered together. She likes white gold too, that's how I know about this procedure.  

Answer 10

you should do what your heart desires

Answer 11

I wouldn't take it but that is just me but my mom knows my test is sooo much different then hers so she wouldn't even offer it to me