My Nurse Did it to "Save Her A$" Should I tell A Higher-Up?

Question

I was treated for an STD that I caught after a sexual assault at Planned Parenthood.

I did not feel welcome there. First off the clinician said "Don't worry. You could only get HIV if he had like a ton of C U M on his finger" Shouldn't they not be using that word?

Also, after my pelvic exam was done, the clinician said "You better be thankful she did that, you know. She didn't have to do that. She did it to save her a$$.

Also, I said " I was sexually assaulted when a man put his finger into my v****a." and they quoted me as saying "fingered me in" And they wrote "Advised HIV test for coitus unprotected". I never said I had unprotected coitus. (Like I said before, it was a digital penetration)

Also, they checked off a bunch of things in the "counseling/education" section that they never discussed with me. They said they discussed safer s*x, emergency contraception, and all kinds of things. Did they do that to just cover themselves, "Save their A$$" like the clinician said?

My v****a is scarred from the treatment. I called their office today and asked to have my record corrected and explained the misquotations and inaccuracies. They stated that I would need to call the "Planned Parenthood higher up" at her main office. They refused to correct my record. However, don't I need the actual clinician that made the misquoations to correct it?

Do you think the Planned Parenthood Higher-up will be more respectul and understand my concerns? Should I tell her how she said "Save Her A$$" Isn't that rude to say to patients?

I used to go to a private practice gynecologist. She was so incredibl respectful and always uses professional terms. She always answers all the questions I have. They treat me like a human being. I also found out that because I don't qualify for Medicaid, the treatment I got at Planned Parenthood costs the same as a private practice gynecologist. I am going back to my gynecologist.

Are my concerns warranted? Am I weird for expecting more professional terms than C U M and Save Her A$$

What should I tell the Higher-Up? Should she be concerned that they are checking things off that they never discussed? I am educated on those issues, but do you think they do that to young girls that may not be educated?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, and this is a generalization, most people who go to Planned Parenthood are not the most intelligent people in the world.  If she would have used the term s***n or sperm the average person wouldnt have gotten what they meant.

When she said to cover her a**, most people know what that means.

On the counseling part, I would definitly make a complaint about that, especially since they didnt discuss with you what they said.  That in and of itself could make them liable.

Also call the office for the United Way in the city too.  Ask them if they help fund planned parenthood, if they do tell them everything you have told us.

Answer 2

First of all, they can technically refuse to correct your record, but you are allowed to add your own addendum to the record, stating what inaccuracies occurred with your care.

As for the counseling they are REQUIRED to give you, it is a Patient Rights violation that they did not do so, and should be addressed with their regional manager.

I would write a detailed letter, almost verbatim from what you wrote here, to the higher up.  ALWAYS always do it in writing, and send the letter certified mail.  If you do not get a response within 30 days, I would copy the letter to your state's Board of Healing Arts and contact a lawyer.

Answer 3

First off I am really sorry to hear that this happened to you.

I work in the emergency health care field and will tell you that she behaved inappropriately.

Do speak to her supervisor as well that persons supervisor. First make a call with your concerns, then ask for their name and mailing address and write your concerns by letter. When you put it in letter, no words can be mixed up or forgotten and in turn leaves a paper trail. Keep a photocopy of the one you send and ask for not only a response, but you want the situation rectified and want to be told in writing how that was done.

Lastly, I would find out who licenses PP in your area (health unit, college of physicians and surgeons)... whomever it is... and let them know of your concerns as well.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

If I were you, I would tell whomever runs the classes or who the director is and tell them what a horrible thing they said to you. TOTALLY unconventional for professionals. They had no right, and you have all the rights, so report so she gets her own butt in trouble for being that way, after all, they are there to support you, not to put you down.

Good Luck Dear, I hope this helps.