My Older Sister Just Became My Big Brother?

Question

ok, my sister has always been very manly we would joke about it. we all thought she would just get girlier as time went on but as she hit college years it got even worse but we didnt care we thought that, that was just the way she is and accepted her. she later on ran away to new york we got her and when she came back home she had a sort of fade and we just accepted it but then... she runs away to newyork again and now all of her friends are saying that she is a he. she (he) is now coming home for christmass i know all i have to do is act normal cause shes always sort of been like another brother. now is there anything im missing or any advise anyone could give me as to the way i should act or talk to her/him? ( at home we all will have to accept and if its what she realy wants than just act as if she were realy a guy)

Answer 1

talk to her like you always have just because he's a guy now(?) doesnt change your relationship that much  

Answer 2

I think that it would be very helpful if when she comes home you and her sit down and have a open loving non-judgmental heart to heart talk. Let her tell you about her life and her feelings. Listening to her is going to be a validation of your love and acceptance of her. Ask her how she would be to be addressed and introduced to others. Just being there and understanding her feelings will make everything easier and bring people even closer together.  

Answer 3

Well, sometime after he/she comes back, talk to them in private. Ask your sibling if they are a transvestite (ie, biologically female, self-identifies as female, dresses male), transgender (biolgically female, self-identifies as male, dresses male), or transsexual (has had gender-reassignment surgery, male in every way) and what gender they would like to be referred to and all that. If they get a little touchy, just explain to them that this is all new to you, and you'd like to learn how to deal with this sudden change.

Answer 4

challenge her to an arm wrestle and if you loose, kill yourself.

Answer 5

Just don't be rude about it.

She's still the same person, so it shouldn't be a problem.

I mean, she may not be physically a man, she may just be g*y or something. Could be rumors.  

Answer 6

First of all, keep in your mind at all times, no matter what, this person is your loved sibling.

Regular people can not "understand" what happens in these cases, but they can offer tolerance and acceptance.

And that will be your role.

If you are wondering what things to do with your sister,

just ask her, and if s/he wants to do something the guys do, then include her in, without teasing or reference to her gender issues.

Just roll with the tide, and try to manage the best you can.

^j^

Answer 7

I think you answer your own question.  Just be cool about it, she/he is still the same person inside, perhaps only happier.  Unusual situation to be sure.

Answer 8

You still will have great deal in common, so would act like other times. If you two joked and kidded about stuff, then would not walk around on egg shells, but would act normal. An ice breaker might be; Hope something is longer than your beard. Sure normal curosity about events will be main topic.  

Answer 9

omg lol

if i was in your shoes i would feel devastated to find that out