My Parents Are Divorced And I Can't Take It Anymore!!!?

Question

My Parents divorced 9 years ago...because my dad found his high school sweetheart and then they got married....well my mom had no money and he just left us. he was a truck driver and usually gone for 8-10 weeks....

well he didnt come back and my mom found out that he found his hs sweetheart and divorced him (they divorced each other)

now its 9 years later and my dad is married to my step mom (i dont like her) and i have 2 step sisters and 2 step brothers.(i HATE that new family).

i get to vist my dad but its torture cuz they dont treat me like im welcome....

i want my parents back together so i dont have to keep swiching houses back and forth!!

i cry myself to sleep...im so depressed cuz i want my dad and mom TOGETHER not apart!!!

HELP

Answer 1

Instead of thinking about you, why don't you think about your mother.  Even though this is your father, what makes you think that he and your mother could ever get along?  You're just using this as an excuse to be miserable.  You want your dad to now pick you and your mother over his other family.  These people have made their decision, they were adults, they had choices.  Remember this in life:  "Wishin' don't make it so."  You don't like it, you wish it were otherwise, but you have to accept it.  It's over, and they moved on, and you need to move on, too.  Having them back together might be a kind of victory on your part, but what makes you think it wouldn't be worse than it is the way it is now?  Divorce is a terrible thing, but it's common these days, and you are among millions of kids all over the world who feel just like you do.

Tell your mother and father that you no longer want to keep switching houses.  Tell them that you are serious about this.  Talk it over with your school counselor and your aunts, uncles, and anyone else who will listen.  Be firm.

Answer 2

okay hun speaking from personally experience my parents are divorced too. I cried myself to sleep plenty of times wishing my parents would get back together. My parents divorced twice, I know your feeling my father recently remarried in March to my best friends mother. Who I dont like and can no stand, when I was pregnant with my first born and my father first grandbaby I went into labor and she didnt tell him at all. So yes sweetie I know what it feels like to not be welcomed.. The best thing for you is honey is to talk to your local preacher or adult that is not in the situation that you trust to talk to and tell them how you feel. That's how I got through it I talked to my father n law and I am only 19 yrs old okay so I know how it feels. I cried myself to sleep everynight and prayed to god that they would get back together but I looked at it like a grown up and accepted the fact they weren't getting back together and that i have to accept it and move on. It's hard for a divorce when there are children invovled and in the middle. just seek a local preacher or a adult you trust and talk to them thats all you really can do

Answer 3

I'm sorry sweetie. One thing you have to understand is you're parents are probably  never going to get back together. You need to accept this. Also talk to your dad & tell him how you feel. Everything will be ok. Good luck sweetheart my heart goes out to you.

Answer 4

well maybe you could live with someone else for awhile til you feel better

and if not time heals and you shouldnt worry, its how god wants it to be...theres a reason to why its happening

Answer 5

you saying that's hard for divorce i'm talking about  my mom died when i was 7 and now i'm 11 i think about her every day and i really miss so don't even go there

Answer 6

I am sure you that you would prefer that your parents be together but you just have to face that fact that one of them doesn't want to be with the other and because of that the other too.  I think this is more about your feelings and reaction to your situation.  Pretty much you are acting how most teenagers would by being more concern with your own desires.  In about 20 years, you'll see understand it more.  Try to find some therapy.

Answer 7

talk to them about the situation.... and see how they feel about it...

Answer 8

sorry....tell them how you feel

tell them you hate having 4 step brothers and sisters that treat you like c**p and that youre tired of having to move back ad forth just cause they aint together no more

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say but the chances of your parents getting back together are 1 in a million. BUT if you really don't like your Dads new family yet want to see him ask if you could have sometime where he takes ONLY you out and does something with you.

I would also tell your mum and dad how you feel because they really aren't physic and won't know how you feel in till you tell them.

Another way to stay in-touch with you dad is via email, phone calls, instant messaging and texting.

Don't be sad + hope I helped

Si=]

Answer 10

Sit them down and talk to them.

Answer 11

I am so sorry that you are in such pain.   This issue is really too big for YA.  You should speak with your mother and tell her that you would like to find a therapist who specializes in children of divorce issues.  explain that you are depressed, not just sad and it requires professional help.  if she will not help, ask your dad.  If he won't help, speak to the counselor at your school.  He/she should be able to help you with this.  Good luck

Answer 12

Sometimes things just don't work out. If you don't want to switch houses then don't. Tell your dad if he truly loves you then he will come visit you. If he refuses then why care about him. He obviously doesn't care about you anymore. I know its tough but you got to be strong. Be glad you have your life ahead of you. Also, let your friends help you and comfort you.  

Answer 13

So sorry to hear that, but I think its not possible for your parents to get back at all. You see, adults are very complicated people and sometimes they fall out of love. I know that we tend to hurt children like you by making this decisions, but there's not much you can do about it. The only advice I can give you is try to find more friends your age, go out, join a sport, I don't know something that can make you enjoy yourself. It seems to me that what you need is someone who you can feel close to or feel yourself.  Talk to your mom. Do you have anyone else besides your mom and your dad? The worst thing you can do is get depressed over this. I know things are going to be okay for you. Just don't worry about things that you can't control, rather do things that you can control and make you feel better. Good luck.

Answer 14

grow up! your new family probably does not accept you because you have not accepted them yet. you need to understand people get divorced in this world and while it does suck it is a FACT. move on for your own good, and when you have accepted that they will never get back together you can start to become part of your new family.

Answer 15

You will need to learn how to accept things how they have become. I married a woman who had a 9 year old girl. Now she is 14. I love her to death. She now has a baby brother (3 years old) and she would give up her own life for him. She will be having a baby sister in the next week or so and she is ecstatic to the thought of having a sister. When you visit your dad, you make yourself an outsider and help make a big gap between you and your other blood related siblings. They are your blood. A lot has to do with your attitude. If you can fix your attitude towards them, you might be able to be happier. Remember that feelings you have for them are probably how they feel about you. So, bury your hatchet as soon as possible or keep going along this same path and it will make you miserable for the rest of your life. Take Care

Answer 16

wow, I really feel for you. Try suggesting this to your dad. Outline the good points. E.g. all the good memories

Answer 17

Sorry but i'm pretty sure after 9 years, they are not going to come back together. I recommend calling 1-800-SUICIDE if you have any thoughts of it....

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Answer 18

I'm sorry that you are going through this, but I don't think your parents are going to get back together, especially after 9 years.

How does your mom feel about his situation now?  the best you can do is be there for her. although after all this time I'm sure she's over it.

good luck!!!!

Answer 19

You need to be able to let go. This is your parents problem, and it may be better for them. I know it's hard think about their problems when you're feeling so down, but it's probably for the best. There's a good reason for everything. Tell your new family what's on your mind. If they don't listen, give them the ultimatum. They shouldn't put you through this but you shouldn't expect your parents to ever get back together. You need to look on the brighter side and find a way to get over it. Confront them. Show your side of things. Talking often helps.

Answer 20

You need to get over this already.

Its been 9 yrs they are not getting back together.

Answer 21

there isn't any way you can get your parents back together [trust me I've  tried] but you can talk to your dad to try to get him to understand what you think

Answer 22

Maybe you should stop being so selfish,

your parents obviously aren't right for each other.

Move on.

Answer 23

I know it's hard sweet heart... I have an evil step mother too. This probably isn't the best advice but it worked for me. Just Leave... Run Away and find your own life. Be a tough cookie and straighten out your own priorities, keep in touch never letting them know where you are... You'll meet hundreds of people and they'll all love you.

Answer 24

I think it is time for you to grow up and  accept the fact that they will never be together again and also to realize that this is not about you...this is something that is between your mom and your dad.  Why would you want you mom to be with someone that left her for someone else?  Do you not care that your mom would be miserable because she is with a man that does not love her anymore....but she stays to make you happy?  Selfish much?

Answer 25

Sweetheart, I feel your pain, however you can't change what has already happened.  You need to find happiness within yourself and let go of trying to change something you have no control over.  There are so many young people that are going through the same thing that you are.  One of these days you will be married and have your own children.  Have you tried asking for more one on one time with your dad?  That could help.  Good luck to you.

Answer 26

hey, they may or may not get back together. please try to let go and move on with your life. if they like their lives now, be happy for them

Answer 27

Tell Them how you fell express your self, do not beg that irritates. Tell why you want him back explain get your mom interested.

Hope this helps!

Answer 28

I'm sorry you're family situation is very difficult.  Your parents are the adults and have made decisions that affect you.  Don't take their choices personal. I have 2 nieces going thru the same exact thing you are going thru.  Just hang in there.  Just because your parents are divorced, does not mean that they don't love you.  Your parents love you very much.

Answer 29

sorry babe... its not gonna happen.  time to get on with your life.

Answer 30

I get your disappointment. Life just changes now and then. We may not like the changes but it is how we will be that counts. Why not stop fighting what you don't like and look for what you do? It could work you know.

Answer 31

You can be sure of one thing...Mummy and Daddy will never be back together just because YOU want that.

My advice........never put yourself into any situation that you do not feel comfortable in. Rather, create an environment into which you can invite those that are happy to be with you because they want and need to be there just as much as you do.

It;s all so simple really.....isn't it?

Now....off you go and act like you mean what you think you prefer!