My Parents are too critical?

Question

They're always telling me how I'm not good enough.

If I get an A- I should have gotten an A, If I get an A I should have gotten an A+. B's are considered like they are a D, and C's are pretty much a sign of the apocolypse.

I'm always too fat for them. It doesnt matter what my weight is, I always have to "stop eating!" or I'm not active enough, even though I dance and have been running daily.

My room is never clean enough, apparently I always have a bad attitude. And whenever I talk back or say something about it they tell me I'm just like my sister (who is morbidy obese, drinks, does pot, s*x's it up like crazy, and steals from stores and others) Out of those, I do none and am not.

But whenever I critisize them, no matter how small (like, you're walking funny) they jump on me like I just told them they are the worst parents in the world.

What can I do to make them stop besides telling them? I've already done that.

Answer 1

I so sorry for you. But I think it's because your sister messed up they want you to be the perfect daughter. I would tell you to say " I'm not perfect but just cuz I'm not perfect doesn't mean I'm like my sister."  

Answer 2

My dad's the same way. He said that I'll end up being like my drunken, broke, jackass of an uncle. He wants me to get good grades, and I try, but it's hard for me. I have DID (Dissociative identity disorder) and It's hard to deal with school and DID at the same time. I know what you feel, I know your pain. the next time they gripe about your grades or anything else, sit them down and tell them that this is you, and you are doing your best in school. Tell them this is who you are, tell them that you tired of trying to please their sorry asses and you aren't going to keep listening to their c**p. do it, but do it respectfully. good luck mate.

Ta ta,

C.R.

Answer 3

Since your sister slipped from their hands and isn't perfect they want you to be.