My Psycholgoist Said She Is Surprise I am Still Standing? What Does That Mean?

Question

This morning I woke up and I was extremely depressed. I am depressed because I was sexually assaulted and now I have HPV and Herpes from it. I was proactive and I went to see a psychologist at my school. I told her about my issues. She said that she is surprised I am still standing. Is that good? Does that mean that if I have made it this far maybe I can get through this?

The man that attacked me and infected me with his diseases also stalked and harassed me. I dropped out of college 6 months ago. I am gong to see my psychologist in a couple days and also an academic advisor. Should I try to get back to school? I stopped going half way through the semester because I was too depressed and I get constant vaginal itching.

How do I get through this? I went to the book store and got a book on positive thinking. I am trying to be positive.

My dream is to become an attorney to help people fight violent crime. Do you think I should go for my dream of law school? Do you think I can make it.

That creep that assaulted me makes me sad and think that humanity is evil, but today I was so happy when I went back to my college after 6 months. My psychologist was so nice and seemed to care a lot!!!! Also, the people at financial aid say I might be able to qualify for financial aid. School starts on Monday. Should I try to go to school?

I don't want to look back and say that this attacker ruined my life....Like say I dropped out of college and had a horrible life. My mom has a high school diploma and my dad only has an 8th grade education. I will be the first person in my whole family to graduate college (if I go back). Also, do you think I could maybe even go to graduate school? I want to go to law school so bad!!!

Also, I have only been diagnosed with HPV. I know there is a good chance I also have Herpes because I have Herpes symtoms. However, do you think I should not get diagnosed on Herpes? I think that would be way too depressing. Can I do positive thinking to make the herpes go dormant?

Also, can I have a husband someday? I want to get married and have childen, but I also want to adopt from third world countries. My psychologist seemed to still accept me even though I have STDs, do you think I will find a husband that does?

Also, will Herpes make me sick a lot? I have had it for 10 months now. I had one outbreak in November and now my second is in August. I just get red ulcers that eventually crust over. Do you think the worst is over? Someone told me that the worst break out is the worst? I am putting baby powder on the sores and they are helping the itch go away.

Please help me. Should I not give up and keep trying? I hope I can go back to school on Monday. I want to succeed in life so bad.

Am I a diseased person? Please help!!!! Will Herpes affect my health? I don't want to get sick

Answer 1

I like the two answers above mine.  I will only add a few things.

"Should I try to go to school?" Absolutely yes.

You can't make herpes go away or dormant by positive thinking.  But there are good medicines available for it now.  And over the years, it will show up a lot less frequently.  I have had it for years, and it rarely shows up, say every few years.  Herpes shouldn't make you sick.  It can cause swelling and soreness when it is active.

Yes, you can certainly have a husband and kids someday.  If you have herpes active at the time when you need to give birth, they will like complete the birth via Caesarean section.

See your doctor about creams to deal with itching.

You're doing everything right. Don't quit now.

Here's a book that can give you more potent help than positive thinking (although positive thinking is good)--I  highly recommend it:

http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Days-Self-Este...

Best Wishes!

P. S.  

"My Psychologist Said She Is Surprised I am Still Standing? What Does That Mean?" She meant that will all you have gone through and have been facing, she is surprised you haven't lost it totally!

Answer 2

You most certainly did the right thing by being proactive and talking to your school psychologist. She is probably surprised you're still standing because what you have experienced can be incredibly traumatic, and many people probably wouldn't have been as strong as you. I believe she was giving you a compliment.

Try to continue seeing a psychologist. It's best to share your emotions with a professional who understands that what you've experienced will take some time to process and integrate. If you indeed have herpes (get tested!), you might also consider attending a Herpes Support Group where you can share your experiences with others in a caring and non-judgmental environment. (see below)

You are not "diseased", dirty or tainted! And I believe you will find love in spite of all this. In future relationships, always advise your partner of your condition before things become sexual (see below). Practice safe s*x, and get regular checkups. Also consider one of the popular herpes suppressant drugs on the market, or Christopher Scipio's alternative treatment (see below). Always consult your physician first.

Please go easy on yourself and allow plenty of time to work through this. Take it one day at a time and you'll get through it. You are not alone!

And stay focused on your dreams!!

Answer 3

Ok, a lot of different questions here, the only one I don't know much about is the effects if herpes, but Google really will give you every answer to that. :)

Your psychologist saying she's surprised your still standing is of course a good thing! She's saying how incredible it is that you've been through so much, and got past it.

Yes yes yes go back to school! You seem like a very intelligent person and you obviously want this very bad, so take the first step and go into college. Don't let that man ruin your life.

And yes, I think you could find a husband who would be willing to work past your condition, and I do believe the worst is over and that you will find treatments that will dramatically alleviate your symptoms.

I'm so sorry about what happened to you and I wish you the best of luck. :)