My STRAINED relationship with my mother?

Question

I have not spoken to my mother in over 6 months. She has been verbally and physically abusive my entire life. She has said things to me and my siblings that I am ashamed to repeat. I stopped speaking to her when she cursed out my friend and punched my sister in front of my son at my son's 1st birthday party at a children's museum b/c she felt she was being disrespected. I have delt with her erratic behavior my entire life b/c I felt like I didn't have a choice but I refuse to let my son witness her behavior. At times I miss her and feel bad about not talking to her but I felt that it was my only option to protect my family from her abusive behavior. I look at him sometimes and feel so dad that she is missing her only grandchild grow up. Sometimes my mother can be the sweetest person in the world. Other times she can be an outright monster. I wrote her a letter to let her know how I felt about her behavior and she left me a voicemail saying that I'm the one with issues. I did send her a mother's day gift.

A little background

- During my baby shower she cursed out the game host and thew her gift across the room b/c the game host playfully told her section of the room to stop cheating

- When my son was born the hospital banned her from the room b/c she cursed out my husband when he told her to not pick up the baby b/c he wanted me to be the first person to hold the baby

These are only a few examples of her behavior that she feels she is never a fault for. I really feel like she is trying to destroy all the good things in my life. What would you do if you were in my situation? Do you think I have made the right decision?

Answer 1

First off "YES" you have made the right decision, you should want better then that for your family. I know how it is to miss your mother, I also have had periods in my life where I stayed away from my mother because she allowed her husband to sexually abuse me for 12 years, along with verbal abuse.

Your going to miss her because she is the only mother you have, but that doesn't mean you have to subject yourself or your family to her abusive ways.

Good for you for taking a stand and ending the abusive cycle.  

Answer 2

just  talk  to here

Answer 3

OK... I know shes your mother but she doesn't behave like a mother so you are doing the right thing. Her manners are terrible and you should not have to put up with them!