My Sister - is a liar when she is drunk, she saying that our brother sexually & physically assulted her! ?

Question

how can we make her stop? she is 30 years old and is training to be a lawyer.

to give somebackground, she had a lot of mental probs when she was younger, anorexia, suicide attempts, sleeping around, borderline personality disorder etc, then she seemed to get better, went to university and did well, but for the past year, she occasionally gets drunk and comes out with shite like she got raped by our brother when she was younger and she exagerates the time, when that brother attacked our dad with a knife ( he was only 15 at the time) she was there, but would have been to young to remember it, and in any case my dad managed to restrain him and just had a cut on his hand, she blows it out of proportion and is now saying that he physically assulted her and threatned her recently and that he sexually assulted / tried to rape her . she has even gone to the police to ask for some kind harrasment/restraining order but nev er mentioned rape and never pressed charged for assult BUT, she was vindictive enough to tell the police that our brother has a fake driving licence, and other petty crimes, he has been told he may go to jail, which is what she wanted. she went and told her doctor this pack of lies about our family, she is now seeing a therapist at her request, and is thinking of taking a year out. we think is because she cant handle law school and is looking for something or someone to blame. how can we stop her from lying when she is drunk and is there anyway we could explain th the doctor/therapist that she is liar when drunk? my brother obviously is angry at her and is thinking of trying to sue her for defamation or something. she wont speak to us and is very distant/secreative and is thinking of moving into a womens refuge until the police/ court etc etc sorts all this out. so i think something must be wrong, but i dont understand why she has started to lie when she gets drunk.

any ideas on what we can do?

I know that he can be verbally abusive towards her and she was angry because he called her a w***e / slag / **** etc, but he has done that for years, so why would she suddenty take it so bad now?

he simply would not sexually assult her, nor would he beat her up.

can we threaten her with defamation?

Answer 1

Basically, there is nothing you can do, but stay away from  her and avoid contact, at least until the court issues are completed.  If your brother did not do anything wrong than stop worrying.

If your sister is filing false police reports, the prosecutor may be interested in pursuing charges.  But no, I don't see any slanderous conduct if it is only being reported to the police. Police reports are NOT public record.

Lastly, it sounds like your sister has a serious alcohol problem, coupled with her previous mental health issues.  She is very unpredictable.  Do not confront her as it will do no good.  If you do see her, simply encourage her to seek help.

Answer 2

Stay away from this nut.

Get some real help, which we cannot give.

Your brother is also a real work of art.

Get him some help along with her.

Most drunks do lie.

Maybe she is not.

I am sure the law will find out.

No to your case, as your brother is also telling lies calling her a w***e.

Answer 3

Since he is apparently innocent why not let him defend himself. As for your description I would not be surprised if you do not know the full story.

Answer 4

Maybe you should be seeking more professional help instead of consulting in a bunch of strangers online...