My Sister is getting a divorce?

Question

But i am really good friends with her soon to be ex husband.

My question is will it be possible to still keep a friendship with him or do i just support my sister and cut all ties?

Answer 1

Talk to your sister. If it's going to cause a huge rift in the family, it's not worth it. If it doesn't look that bad, let her know what you have in mind.

Answer 2

It depends on your individual circumstances.  I don't see any harm in maintaining a friendship with the ex husband, but if your sister has a problem with it, then you may need to reconsider.

My huband's ex still stays close to my mother-in-law, despite the fact that she cheated on him.  My in-laws just chose not to choose sides, and want to maintain a good relationship for the sake of all the grandkids.  My husband has absolutely no issue with it. My brother's ex still has a good relationship with our family too. So it can work out fine.

I would just play it by ear.  If things get bitter, it could be very awkward, but not all divorces are bitter ones.

Answer 3

Family first, always.

Answer 4

If this bothers your sister then you need to cut all ties.  Your sister should come first. Divorces are difficult and she will need all the love and support you can give her.

Answer 5

let ur sister get a divorce but if u r good frnds so i thnk u can keep frnds with him.  i don think so anythng bad in this its ur sister is getting divorced u r supporting her and on the other hand he is ur frnd so b frnds with him.  try to manage both the sides dude.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the situation of the divorce.  If it's a bitter one and they are not talking at all, then I think you need to be there for your sister and cut all ties.  On the other hand, if they just fell out of love but are still friends, then I don't see why you can't be friends with the ex as well.  Survey the situation and make your decision on that.  Also, you can ask your sister what she thinks and reassure her that she comes first before any of your friends.

Answer 7

Try to be friend with him ,he will return  back to her

Answer 8

I see no reason you couldn't keep being friends with him.

However your sister might see things differently.

Answer 9

yes why not...?

he is your friend & no matter that your sis is takeing divorce thats not your business so dont worry!

Answer 10

I don't think you need to cut all ties with him because your relationship with him is different with your relationship with her. It also depends on the premise of their divorce. Sometimes people just don't work out and if this is the case wtih your sister and there are no major hard feelings with her ex, then it shouldn't be a problem

Answer 11

Blood is thick but unless he abused her there is no need to cut the ties off your friendship.

Remember one thing: don't take sides or get into anyone's camp. Stay neutral and supportive of both (unless there were serious issues ie: he did a lot of spousal abuse (proven) and you had no use for him). If they just did not get along and/or a couple who should not be together, stay neutral & supportive to both parties.

Answer 12

You need to talk to your sister and tell her you understand why she is getting a divorce and you just want her to be happy. Let her know that you don't have any hard feelings against her husband and when they were together you were good friends with him. You would like to continue your friendship with him, but not if it will upset her.

Tell her you love her and her feelings are more important to you, then your friendship with her husband and you want to know how she feels about this.