My Son is cheating What do I do Help?

Question

My Son has a wife and a girlfriend and 5 kids with wife he is tilling my Daughter-inlaw that ih is not seeing the girl but he is .he is going to lose his job he misses work all the time now to be with this girl ,hes 31 shes 20 Do I till my Daughter-inlaw ?My son has her looking for a house so thay can move [Wife] She lives in a low cost appartment so if she moves and he dose not stay she will lose everthing .I love them both .My ex did the same thing to me and no one told me they all new .I don't went my Daughter-inlaw to hate me .I all so think my son is doing drugs

Answer 1

Yes you should tell your daughter in law don't let her and those kids lose everything..

Answer 2

Hmm.  You're right smack behind the 8 ball.  Have you talked to your Son yet?  I would tell him first that you know what's up & threaten to call him out on it.  

Answer 3

Tell your son that you know and give him a day or two to tell his wife.  Tell him that if he doesn't tell her, that you will.  It should come from him not you.  

Answer 4

First of all I must commend you for thinking about your daughter-in-law and your grand children instead of your son. That is very hard to do but you don't have you head in the sand. You know what your son is doing is very wrong. It is wrong in so many ways. Yes, I think you need to prepare your daughter-in-law and help her get through this. Do you think that marriage counseling would help or is it to late? I don't think your daughter-in-law will hate you at all. She is very lucky to have you there for her. If your son is on drugs, there is nothing you or her can do about that. But, you and your daughter-in-law should join ALANON which is a group like AA that helps the family of drug addicts. This group is wonderful and they don't tell you what to do but they tell you what not to do. Good luck to all of you.

Answer 5

I usually subscribe to the theory of stay out it, but in this case, if you know all this for a fact, I would tell her.  She needs to know he is not to be counted on.

Answer 6

Have you talked to your son yourself yet?  As his mother you have every right to tell him you know about what he is doing and how you feel about it! I wouldn't tell him what to do, but as his mother you should tell him what he is doing is wrong and you are very disappointed in him!  If I were you and how you say you love your daughter in-law too, I would tell him if you don't stop what your doing I'm going to tell her!  

Answer 7

yeah you need to tell her....  she has your grandkids!  take care of her because she is probably a good girl, your son is the one messing up, and even though he's your son, what he's doing is wrong and should not be supported. you gotta choose sides now, the innocent daughter IN LAW who has your grandchildren, or your soon to be deadbeat SON, who is ruining his life, and most likely will NOT get custody if they break up...  she needs to know whats going on so she can plan things out... but you need to be gentle, tell her everything you know, and that you think he's on drugs, and he's gunna lose his job, and your so hurt by your sons actions and cant believe he's doing these things you didnt raise him like that and are ashamed.... and that you had a similar experience and want to do whats best for her because you wish someone told you rather than be oblivious to the whole situation..... and that she's too good for your son and he's going downhill..  

Answer 8

You might talk to him and let him know that you know but otherwise stay out of it. Your daughter could end up hating you for "breaking up her marriage" even though you might have done the "right thing"

It's their life to live and nobody wants to see their child's relationships fail. Just be ready to catch her when she falls.  

Answer 9

I think you should tell your daughter-in-law. Tell her you KNOW that he is cheating and that you THINK he is doing drugs.  Be very careful on how you say it. Don't get facts mixed up.

Answer 10

Yes!  The most important thing here are your grandkids.  Think of them first, and how you can best help them.

Answer 11

Protect your grandchildren and first confront your son.  Tell him you know what's going on and you don't like it.  Explain if he doesn't stop you are going to tell his wife because you don't want to see the family destoryed.  If he won't stop you might have to let his wife know then, but try him first.  Maybe it will save you alot of aggravation.

Answer 12

Yes, you should speak with your daughter in law.  I know it's tough to go against your son, but your grandchildren will suffer if you don't.  They should be your first consideration at this point.