I am leaving my abusive husband in a couple of days; just getting everything together. I'm a 35 yr old stay at home mom and we've been married for 14 years. We have a daughter 8 and a son who's 6. He has been verbally/emotionally/ (and physically abusive in the past with me.) Very horrible and he does this in front of them and I've realized that he's abusing them too by doing this in front of them. I've left 3 times in the past and have come back but now I HAVE to leave and stay gone for my kids and myself. My son to my mom that his dad had hit him and is mean to him when i am gone. My daughter said that he's grabbed her shirt by the neck and talks to her mean and here are some other things she said he's done:
left them in the theater while he went to get refills on popcorn, left them in the car while picking up his chinese food, fusses about them about housework like they're teenagers, etc.
We are going to live with my mom which is not an ideal situation but I have to leave for our safety. my son wants to leave but my daughter is making me feel bad b/c she cries and asks why her dad can't be normal and nice so we can be a family..what do i say to her? Then he tells me he will give me sole custody but he has a right to see them and wants them every other weekend! What am I supposed to do? I haven't told him about the abuse allegations( I do believe my son), and i'm nervous to bring it up b/c what if he takes it out on my son for telling on him? I want him to only have supervised visits and ask the court for him to get help, I dont leave my kids alone with him. Another problem is, they go to great schools where their dad will still live and I want them to still go to school here but he will have to be involved if they do and I don't know what to do...The inner city schools are horrible and my daughter was mistreated severely in those schools before..I have so much on my mind!
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