My anxiety is becoming unbearable!! Please help me!?

Question

Its bad all day long. I got off my meds and then my dr put me back on my meds and now they dont do anything for me but I still feel a little better when I take them just knowing that I'm taking them. I'm just running out of options and scared about what might happen. I can't work due to my anxiety, so I have no income coming in and I feel like my husband blames me even though he doesn't say anything unless hes mad. I mean we are only 20 and in debt from our wedding and the fact that only 1 income is coming in.. I just don't know what to do. I like to sleep the day away because I feel better when I'm not anxious and thats like the only way not to feel anxious for me. I know I should suck it up and get a job but I am 5 months pregnant and know nobody would hire me anyways since in 3 months I'd have to go on maternity leave anyway. Any advice? I want a normal thought process, not a messed up negative one.

Answer 1

Don´t take meds, they are bad for your baby!!! Needing more sleep when pregnant is normal, and being anxious about the coming child, and not having income on top of it all, you do have real reasons for your anxiety! Try talking to God about it, He does listen, and will give you the help you needs, in ways that will surprise you!

Answer 2

The truth is that there are real reasons for your anxiety. Real external reasons such as impending parenthood and lack of employment. These are 2 of the most stressful events a person can experience. So, cut yourself some slack.

Second, you need to use your diet as your ally. Eat fish rich in omega-3s, which have been shown to help nerves in general and, speaking from personal experience, fish oil pills relax me.  Omega-3s have the side benefit of helping to make your baby smarter, according to some research studies.

Third, eat green vegetables (spinach, cabbage, kale). These also help to regulate mood and anxiety.

About the job, I would say go ahead and start a search on line at least. It usually takes a while and in this economy it definitely will take a while. By the time you sent out 100 or so resumes and get back a few interviews, you may already have delivered.

Answer 3

I know this seems really simple but its worked for me so far. CBT therapy or u can do it yourself at home it just changes

thought patterns and the way u think and act. As i say everyone is different but it works for a lot of people and it has worked for me so far. Obviously i still get bouts of anxiety but it takes the majority away for me. Also david burns feeling good book is really good to it depends how long you have had anxiety for as it can take a while to correct thought patterns. Its worth a try anyway hope u feel better soon x

Answer 4

First off you need to understand that your current position is probably temporary.  You need to become aware of your negative self talk, and stop it.  You are learning to be helpless.   A good example is your statement that nobody will hire you while pregnant.  Some people won't, but maybe someone will.  Even if they don't you can take positive steps.  Put together your resume. Don't expect perfection. Just starting will help your mood.

See if your public library has "Learned Optimism" by Martin E. Seligman.  His ideas are backed up by good scientific research.  Also get "Mans Search for Meaning" by Viktor E. Frankl.  If anything he will give you a new perspective.

Anxiety can also be treated by meditation and self hypnosis.  Both techniques can be learned on the web

Finally don't try to go through this alone.  I'm sure your husband will help.  For instance, when writing your resume, start by dictating it to him.  Have him help you make a budget,  and stick with it.  Get what ever help your parents and in-laws are willing to offer.  

Answer 5

You have to want to change your attitude. If you allow things in life to bombard you then your life is going to suck. If you dwell on the negatives then you are going to keep getting negative things.

What do you want in your life and how would you feel having those things?

Answer 6

I'd be anxious too. Especially if I were pregnant and taking meds that could affect my unborn child.