My anxiety over wedding planning

Question

I'm getting married in 3 months and I'm far along in the planning. As far as I can tell, I have done everything I should be doing and have all the plans to do anything left to be done in place as is expected. I just can't help feeling like I must be forgetting key things. I have checklists and a planner, but as the date comes closer I just feel like I must be forgetting something and something is bound to go wrong. I want to stress that I'm not having wedding jitters at all, I'm just afraid that the event won't be perfect.i choose my wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses at some oneline store,i all choose them by myself:

wedding dresses # http://www.shopforlover.com/shopexd.asp?id=4636

bridesmaid dresses # http://www.merbridal.com/shopexd.asp?id=4837

bridesmaid dresses # http://www.merbridal.com/shopexd.asp?id=4842

Flower girl Dresses # http://www.shopforlover.com/shopexd.asp?id=7025

Flower girl Dresses # http://www.merbridal.com/shopexd.asp?id=5036

wedding tiara # http://www.shopforlover.com/shopexd.asp?id=4660

Answer 1

I totally hear you! I'm getting married in just under 3 months- totally on schedule, but I have anxiety nightmares probably twice a week. I think it comes from so much pressure for it to be the "perfect day". Something that helps me is if I do something each day in preparation- it can be something small, like writing down a few songs you might like to be played at the reception. If you feel like you're making progress each day, you won't freak out.

Answer 2

Nothing is perfect. just relax

Answer 3

u r forgetting 1 MAIN thing... ur hunny. it sounds like all ur doing is planning not spending quality time with him. u 2 go away 4 awhile & have him help u relax & u help him. hes probably freaking out 2!  congrats &luck!

Answer 4

Join the club. I'm getting married in 30 days and this decision was made about 4 days ago (military conflicts). I have basically done the REALLY important things (cake, dress, flowers, invitations) and I'm still totally stressed out. I'm terrified it won't be perfect too. All you can do is just pass the planning on to someone else (a parent, sibling, friend) and know that it WILL work out.

My husband told me "your wedding won't be absolutely perfect" at which point I was in tears and said "But I want it to be at least mostly perfect."

So, nothing goes perfectly, but it CAN be MOSTLY perfect and thats what you have to live with.  

Answer 5

OK, I'm hoping you have all these dresses in your possession, and that they're what you wanted--otherwise I'm afraid THAT will be what goes wrong for you.  I'm a bridal consultant, and I really don't like this trend of buying your wedding dress online, without even being able to touch the fabric, or try it on and see how it looks on you.  There is nothing like being able to try the dress on before you buy it.  

Having said that, everyone else is right.  I've been to dozens of weddings over the years, more than dozens, and the common denominator is that SOMETHING will go wrong.  You need to give up on the notion that the event will be perfect, because it won't.  You just need to plan carefully enough so that if something does go wrong, it won't be a big something, but even with careful planning, a big something can go wrong.  You have to roll with the punches on this.  

I wish you all the best for a wonderful wedding day!

Answer 6

I know exactly how you're feeling. I was feeling the same way on my wedding day last year (Aug 26th). I, too, have anxiety and really, REALLY don't like being in front of large crowds let alone the center of attention. However, it wasn't that bad. I focused on talking with my husband and my matron of honor during dinner. Also, as the majority of our guests hadn't seen one another in a long time, they were all busy visiting and gossiping with each other so they weren't watching us like vultures as we ate.

As for the first dance, the main lights were off and the only lighting being used was that which the DJ provided which helped darken the room so that I couldn't really see the crowd for the darkness! It was a relief. However, the wine that accompanied dinner helped me relax too. hahahaha.

It won't be that bad. Just focus on the purpose of your special day, you, your husband, and the people you are closest to. You'll be fine, I promise!

Congrats!!

Answer 7

The only issue is that you think the event should be "perfect." When you relax and let things go, you'll see that everything works out for the best. If you've done all your planning and checked your list, then you should be fine. Enjoy your day.

Answer 8

i bet you have every thing covered its just nerves as the day get closer . i hope you have a great day :)

Answer 9

Well the first thing to say is that you have absolutely exquisite taste, so you are not going to go wrong in that area! but you need to get a wriggle on with organising the purchase of all the dresses if you haven't yet done so.  

Answer 10

I stressed and stressed over the same things, and what's worse, I stressed out over what people would think about our wedding. My husband and I did everything the way that we wanted to, which is probably why I stressed about other people's thoughts. But here is my point: just enjoy the day. It will be the best day of your life so far, and all the little things that I worried about right up til that day were forgotten when i woke up that morning. Make sure that your day is perfect for you and your husband, and what will make it perfect is you both taking the time to enjoy each other. No one besides you will know if something did not go perfectly. Enjoy yourself!