My aunt wants to throw a 'baby' shower for my mom

Question

My family is adopting my "future brother" (I think of him as my brother now) from foster care. What do you think about that?

Answer 1

My parents did the same for me and my siblings when we were adopted, it makes you feel like apart of the family.

Answer 2

party on!

Answer 3

A baby shower is an adult party, but the gifts are going to be for the child.  I think it would be better to have a party for him when the adoption is finalized-almost like a birthday party.  

Answer 4

We adopted 5 kids from foster care (a sibling group) and planned our own but it didn't work out because the youngest was put in the hospital.  Probably better, because hardly anyone was actually going to attend and it meant so much to the kiddos.  

But I do think adoption showers are awesome.  This is about your whole family.

Answer 5

THE GIFTS WILL BE GIVE YO YOUR MOM BUT THEY WILL BE FOR HIM.

Answer 6

I think it's a sweet idea.  Generally the idea of a baby shower is to make sure the parents-to-be have the things they need to start out a new life with the baby.  In your case, the kind of gifts would be the same type but more fitting for a toddler - bed, clothes, toys, something nice for mom to relax after a hard day of tantrums.

Answer 7

i agree with you. this should be a celebration for your brother and he should be there. it will make him feel more welcome. also, he will need your mom to buy things and the presents might save her money as opposed to her receiving things she does not need/ will never use. try pointing this out to your aunt. plus, your mom already had a baby shower with you probably. she really isn't missing out. this could also be turned into a joint celebration to celebrate your ENTIRE family since not only your mom and brother are involved... you are too!

Answer 8

But its also a celebration of a new member in the family and the one who will dealing with all the "baby's" needs is your mother. And baby shower gifts are usually things for the baby. Best of luck to you and your family =D

Answer 9

First, congratulations to your family for giving a home to a child who needs one.

Baby showers do shower the baby with the gifts.  The difference for you is that the baby is not usually there to appreciate the gifts so it appears that the mom is being showered.

In this case where the baby is here and a little older, I understand why it might seem a little weird that your mom is being given a shower.

Tell your mom that you are really excited about the "shower" and would like to be included in the planning.  That way you can help guide the celebration toward a party that is more comfortable for you and your new brother.  That way he will not be embarrassed when he is older by dumb pictures of inappropriate "baby shower" props.  I even saw one suggestion here on Y!A for the party givers to make a photo of the older child in a diaper being delivered by a stork.  GAG with capital letters!!!  Please do not let this happen to your brother.

Answer 10

I think it's a good idea to welcome your brother into the family and show him how much joy you feel that he's joining you. The gifts could be very useful if there are things that it would be helpful for him to have, or just to show him how special this time is to you.

He isn't an infant, so I wouldn't go too far with the "baby shower" thing as it could get awkward and embarrassing for all concerned, but I think a small and tasteful celebration-- focused on him, not on the adults involved-- is perfectly appropriate.

Congratulations on welcoming a new brother into your family.

Answer 11

If he is only 3 there are lots of "things" your mother will need that she doesn't have now. All of the presents will be for the new little boy to use in one fashion or another. Bringing a new child into a family is a happy occasion and your aunt is just trying to make it special for your mother.