My b/f does not want kids ever how do i tell him im prego

Question

i think the reason he does not want them is he does not want to grow up. idk help be nice please

Answer 1

I would sit him down and be open and honest with him the longer you wait the harder it will be. My husband didnt really want kids right now but when we first discovered i was pregnant he got excited. it is normal for him to be just as scared as you are so assure him that things will be okay and that there is always someone that is willing to help. there is many clinics that have councilers to help you with situations like this. they give you ways to start the conversation and things you should or shouldnt say. Planned Parenthood is all over the country and is a good place to start. good luck hun. hope all is well.  

Answer 2

tell his mom first. then you have back up.

Answer 3

Well, you didn't get pregnant alone.  If he was that deadset against getting you pregnant, then he should have taken a more proactive role in birth control.  Maybe you used it, maybe it failed, but still there is always that one percent that one will get pregnant with excellent birth control used correctly. And then there are the people that don't use it correctly. When you have s*x you have to be prepared that a pregnancy could result.  You have to just tell him.  It's your body and your choice what to do about it, but it may not be a happy occasion for him.  It's a big responsibility.  As long as you didn't get pregnant on purpose, he can't blame you or be angry.  He has the choice to step up and get used to the idea, or not.  It sometimes takes men longer.  They say that a woman becomes a mother when she finds out she is pregnant, a man doesn't necessarily become a father until he holds his child and it is "real".  Give him a chance and listen to his concerns.  Just tell him calmly and discuss what that means for your relationship.  It's dishonest to keep it from him.  There will never be a perfect time.

Answer 4

bite the bullet and tell him. he'll either get over it and step up to be a father or he'll run. I mean I'm not trying to be rude or anything I went through this when I was 18. My then boyfriend didn't want any kids and I was scared to tell him when I got pregnant but I did and he took off..... for the night. He came back in the morning with a hangover and ready to be a father. He was like "it happened and I can't walk away, it's my kid" We are now married and on baby number three. So, you aren't going to be able to hide it for long and it would just be better to let it out in the open you may never know, he might surprise you. Or he might take off. It's happened. You're pregnant, it's already done.