My b/f is good but somethings are bad? what to do?

Question

my b/f is a very good warm hearted person, he cares for me and others. he cleans the house and its willing to take care of our newborn, he cooks and do fix stuff around the house. the only problem is that he is has felonies from the past and he does not work because people dont want to hire him. I work in and support the family. I do have another son who from another past relationship but my mom has raised him since I was very young and I feel like he needs to be with me and be part of this new family, he also has a son from a past relationship which he spents time but does not economically supports and he is depressed most of the time because he wants to help with money but it has been hard, so I just wonder, is he a good men or those this life makes him a bad irresponsible one? I just dont want to judge him, but sometimes I do feel mad and uncomfortable because he stays home like a housewife and I work like a men. so am I wrong by thinking like this?

Answer 1

no you are not wrong you need to PUSH him!!!

their are jobs out there that will hire him he just needs to keep looking.

just keep pushing him.

Answer 2

There is a job out there for eveyone. He chooses to use that as an excuse, he is lazy and unwilling to take control to help a FAMILY situation. Pitty he is the father of your child - advice leave! However on the flip side u could work with him on a postive point to keep him back into the work force - he can do it - he just needs to try. Mind over Matter. Good luck. PS he sounds like a great partner who is happy to assit where he feels comfortable to but some times thats just not enough

Answer 3

sounds tough, dont be so hard on him; love him and support him, all relationships are unique and private in their own way, you dont have to confom to the social norm.

Answer 4

i think you should not work & him to work but ok sometimes women work insted of men but that docent mean is ''ther right thing to do''

i think you need to sit down & tell him how you feel

you need the money & he needs to work''...

Answer 5

He does all these things to make you happy and make it work at home...try to encourage him to find a job, tell him he'll feel a lot better and will get out of the depression he's in(probably as well cause he's not comfi either being fed by you...)he sounds like a good boy, but you have to help him back on track, unless you switch positions, but seems like your both not into that or you'd be happy...communication is the key, talk to him ,find out what he wants, needs, feels and find a solution together!!! Good luck!

Answer 6

ask your question to your bf. you two needs to sit down and discuss things, your expectations to him and vice versa. another thing to consider is whether your bf works hard, i mean is he doing his best for your family? if he is not, ask him why and think again if he is worth it.

Answer 7

if u love him, and he isnt hurting u, then u mst make the choice, he obviously cares about u, thefelonies coodnt b that bad

Answer 8

Honey, I say, be glad he is trying to do something, you could be doing both the work and housework and if he was working, yes, you'd have to share the household work with him or possibly still be doing  it all yourself.  Tell me something, if he could do some kinda work, who would watch the baby, clean the house.  Can you handle all this + a possible daycare fee?

If you bring in all your kids, is your man more useful at home or at a job?  It really all boils down to what works for you two, not how it looks.  Just be happy.