My babies daddy is in jail....should i wait or not?

Question

well so the qiuck story is that i got pregnant and then 3 days after telling him he gives me a call from cook county jail it turns out he doesnt get out till nov. of 2010 yeah i knoe.... but i dont wanna be the type of mother that has kids from different fathers and i really do love him...... he's been in jail since may of 06....... i've waited this long and we have a beutiful boy who by the way is a jr. ....................... wut to do?

Answer 1

girl, you wait on him my baby daddy got 5 years he get out in 2013 and i am waiting you wait love him that's what he need right now

Answer 2

my baby's father said if the love is true then you wait.

Answer 3

I think you need to be honest and tell him you guys have a kid. maybe it will give him something to look forward to. perhaps he will even change his ways since he obviously's in jail for a good reason..... hopefully he'll understand, this is something he has the right to know. regardless if he's locked up or not.  TELL HIM ASAP besides..... it'll be easier to tell him in a letter then in person when your sitting there with your child.....

Answer 4

Okay if you really love him and you have waited all this time talk to him its much easier since he is in jail to get it all in the open and since you dont want to be a mother that has more thank one baby daddy you should see if things could work out. he may love the idea of having a kid with you and he can look foward to that. I would talk to him being that he is the father and what could you loose from that? talk to him and let him know how you have waited and if you should continue to.

I wish you and yours the best of luck :)

Answer 5

Jail is for months where prison is for years.

In jail, men wait. In prison, men s***w other men. It's a fact of life.

If you do wait for him, make 100% sure you get an AIDS test before you sleep with him.

Also, think of your child(ren) to see if that man is the type of man you think your children need as a father in their life.

From experience I can tell you that criminals don't make good fathers.

Answer 6

Just live your life... if someone new comes along, give them a chance.  This guy is in jail... what kind of a role model will he be for your son?  I am not saying that he is a bad guy... only you can know that... but I think it is a question you have to ask yourself.  Do you want your son to turn out like his father?  If so, and if you really still love him in 2 1/2 years, then by all means.  But if not, move on.

Answer 7

Criminals do not make good fathers. If he was sentenced for 4 years in prison, how do you trust him to be a good dad and husband/boyfriend to you??

this is a very tough decision, but think about it. Once he gets out of prison, it will be tough to get a decent job to support you and the little boy, and I certainly think your son and yourself deserve to live a normal life.

Answer 8

if he is the father, he loves you, and you think he will be a good role model for your child then you should wait for him.  if he is the type who is always getting in trouble with the law then take your boy and run.  no child wants to grow up saying, "my dad is in jail".  you should give him a chance, but please do what is in your child's best interest.

Answer 9

Hello..I am 20 years old and 4.5 months pregnant my bf just got out of jail he was only there for 3 months but that being at the being of my pregnancy it was tough. I managed and now hes back. He has restrictions which is still making it tough for us to start our lives together but we have to stay focused and strong. If you know in your heart he will be a good father when hes out and not get in trouble again then id wait. If he is wanting to be in the childs life then wait!

and to ms mind ninja and bittsen 2---not ALL criminals are bad fathers!!..Yes im sure the majority arent great ppl but that is a stereo type. My bf made a mistake 2 years ago he payed for it and is the nicest, loving, guy i have ever met I wouldnt ask for anything else.  So please be more careful of what your saying because not ALL are bad fathers..

Good luck I hope he gets out and you guys are happy togehter stay strong!!!