My baby's bday is coming and i don't know what to do?

Question

my daughters dad refused to pay his half of daycare this month, and as of right now I'm not speaking to him nor his he seeing our daughter. this last monday i went and filed for child support, but that could take a month or more to start up. my daughters BDAY is the 10th next month and now since i had to pay his half of daycare i have no money to get her anything not even a cake or throw any kind of get together or anything, i feel so bad. I'm really tempted to see how much is in my savings, but I'm sure its not more then 50$ and i really need to start saving for the upcoming expenses of two kids. I'm so pissed right now that because her dad gets to throw little cry baby fits and not pay for the things he should have to, I'm not only suffering but my daughter is too. i know she doesn't understand and probably wouldn't care, but i want to do SOMETHING for her, and at least have a couple little gifts. i really don't know what to do. it may not be a big deal for some people, but i really want to make things like this special for my kids. has anyone had, i mean 0$ to spare and still found a way to do something for their kids bday? i feel like the worst mom ever, its all i can do to keep from crying right now.

Answer 1

Your not a bad mom, you just picked a loser sper doner! and I'm sure you didn't know that at the time!!!

I understand that her b-days a HUGE deal to you! It is a HUGE deal its her b-day! I wouldn't worry so much about gifts. I think at that age the cake is the most important!!! get some pictures or her mucking around in it! :P then you can invite people over for cake, and maybe some of them will bing her a gift or two. and maybe get her a book (I'll love you forever) and put a note from you to her on the inside cover.  Grab a bag of balloons at the dollar store and blow them all up. tape some to the walll and put the rest on the floor for her to play with!

there you go a party for under 10 bucks!!!

Hope I could help! and happy birthday to your little girl!

Answer 2

Go on line and look at making a cake by scratch. There are a lot of recipes and you probably have the ingredients on hand and don't even know it!! I can give you some easy cake recipes if you want. You can also make icing by hand too. As for preasents, you still have time....it's only the 23rd, start pulling overtime at your job and whatever you get extra use as money for preseants. Shoot, go get a 2nd job at McDonalds if you have to for just a couple of weeks just to pay for her b-day.

My husband went and got a 2nd job to pay bills because we have/are still in your shoes. Sometimes, you have to do something extreme to get yourself out of the hole. Just keep your head up when it comes to yuor babies dad, you are a better person for taking care of the huge responsibility of a child. What you are doing and the struggles you are going thru will just teach your child not to take anything for granted, it's actually a great lesson more children today should know. Good Luck! E-mail me [e-mail] if you want those recipes.

Answer 3

ok first off, you are a great mom. remember that always. second, you don't need a lot of money at all for a cake and present. make the cake yourself. cake mix is a couple of dollars and it's so easy to make in your oven at home. and as far as a present i know this will sound really lame but target has those 1 dollar bins and some of the stuff is really cute. you can get her several little presents and wrap them up. she'll have no idea that it only cost a dollar nor will she care. kids are cool like that. :)