My baby is only a month old,is it ok to let her cry until she flls a sleep?

Question

i don t know whats wrong with her,she sleeps only 8 or 7 hours only,and stays awake the whole time

i heared they should sleep atleast 20 to 16 hours

please help

Answer 1

your daughter probly is colicky . my daughter was till she was 3months old wich is when they say it should stop. i had to sit up with her from 3am to 7am while she cried and cried. colicky babys are just babys who are more fussier than others. you sorta just have  to deal with it. theres nothing yo ucan really do . and dont let someoe tell you that colicky means they have gas COMPLETE LIE

Answer 2

You can absolutely NOT let her cry herself to sleep, at this age they are trying to tell you something.  They are hungry, dirty diaper, pain, or some other issue.  If she is only sleeping 8 hrs. a day then you need to discuss this with your Dr.  newborns need an ample amount of sleep for their brain development.  8 hrs. is not normal.  Call her Dr. and in the meantime try to wear her out during the day.  Take her for a walk, play with her (as much as possible for a newborn) etc... Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Swaddle her up really extra tight... rock her or stand and sway from side to side. Go for a car ride.

  and this one's going to sound crazy-- but put her in the car seat (buckled in!!!) put her on top of the washer or dryer... and turn on the washer or dryer. The sound of the running water and the smooth vibrations put my son to sleep every time! Also, if you're breastfeeding you can try laying on your side to nurse her and maybe she'll fall asleep while feeding. Don't wake her to burp her if she does fall asleep- she'll be fine.

I had a difficult baby like yours. I just knew he was tired, but he would FIGHT sleep! Good news though- He did start sleeping through the night at 4 months...

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

One mon. is too early to let them cry.  Try the book, "The Happiest Baby on the Block" for soothing methods. It's the best!

Answer 5

I had massive problems with getting my 3 month old son to sleep.  He would just lie awake and cry for hours, then when he finally went to sleep he would wake every hour or two hours through the night and cry again!  Talk about pulling our hair out .... we were absolutely desperate for sleep!

It was a baby sleep audio program recommended by a friend that finally saved us. We followed the advice and began by creating a baby sleep routine which included bathtime, dimming of the lights, putting Paul into his crib, final nappy change and then lullabies. We also made recommended changes to his naps during the day and used some of the other recommended techniques. Within two weeks he was sleeping through the night most nights with just the odd night where he would just wake once!

Definitely start by creating a good baby sleep routine though and you could find that solves most of your baby sleep problems.

Good luck!

If you want to take a look, the audio program is at http://www.babysleepsolution.com

Answer 6

i have a month old baby too, and sometimes she is fighting her sleep but i let her be up if she wants too. Does your baby sleep thru the night? Im not for "let her cry out" method, so I would just rock her to sleep :) If she is sleepy than put her to sleep, if she dpesnt want to sleep, than just play with her :)

Answer 7

At a month old no you shouldn't. She is just very alert for her age. She will sleep when she wants to sleep. Just make sure the reason she is crying isn't because she's wet, hungry, or uncomfortable ect. You will be just fine. Try putting her in a swing or bouncy seat. My kids loved to swing. They fell asleep every time in there. Congrats on the new one.

Answer 8

Awww no that's not okay. I believe it's only ok when they know better a little bit. Maybe she is not feeling well or having stomach cramps. Anyways every baby is different. Welcome to motherhood. I know it's hard and frustrating but always remember that it won't last forever and it'll get better.

Answer 9

Not at this age no sounds like you just have a very alert baby on your hands!!  lol She's probably just interested in this new world she's in!!

Answer 10

u must let her cry a while everyday,if she cries non stop then u should take her check with ur doc asap.

Answer 11

Bless your heart and your baby girl.  I know it's hard, but she is too young to cry herself to sleep.  My first baby was the same way.  And I had never been around babies.  We rocked a lot. Walked the floor a lot.  When I wasn't holding her, I had her in anything I could carry from room to room.   If you don't have a rocking chair, you need one.  If you can stay calm, it will help.  Swaddle her tightly in a receiving blanket.  My baby had to be changed to a soy formula.  Her first doctor missed it but she had ear infections.  Make sure there are no health issues.  My baby girl is all grown up now.  Trust me, someday you would give anything just to have one day back to rock and hug your baby girl.  I know you are tired.  I hope there is someone who will take care of the baby and let you get a nap.  In fact, I wish it could be me!  Blessings, Jenny

Answer 12

that sucks. I dont think its ok. I think you should find out whats wrong. maybe somthing you eat is not good for baby via your breast milk. or maybe somthing is just really wrong. try bath at night. oatmeal or somthing. to calm baby down. whatch out for when the vaccines come around. might want to split them up so you can tell if baby is allergic to any.  

Answer 13

its definitely not ok...call the doc she may have colic. try everything possible to calm her and never let her cry it out...especially not this young. You may set her down for a few minutes to regroup but never let her cry for longer then 10 minutes or so...I would make an appt. for her at the doc and see if she has colic or maybe she is sick, or has acid reflux, etc. but dont let her cry it out...your her mommy, and u signed up for this to put it bluntly. You have to be responsible and be there for her because she cant speak and tell u whats wrong... Maybe she has gas...Mylicon is a very safe thing to give your baby at any age. Try it, its gas relief medicine. Make sure she is properly fed, burped, and changed. Try rocking her, sitting her in a bouncy seat, taking her for a walk or car ride, putting her in a swing, a warm bath, swaddling, try singing to her, my baby loves when i whisper to her, a gentle massage with johnson and johnson bedtime lotion or massage gel, get a mobile with lights sounds and vibrations (my daughter loves watching the lights) maybe all of this will help to calm her when she cries, and may make it easier for her to fall asleep...Make sure she is eatting enough too...Like i said if need be call the doc and make an appt. and they may help guide you or tell you if something is wrong....good luck

Answer 14

Please don't let your baby cry.  That would be cruel.  She will sleep when she is tired.  Every baby is different so don't try to go by what some book or website is telling you.  Babies do not know the difference between day and night until they are much older, so don't try to force a schedule on her at this stage.  Things will get better and she will start sleeping longer.  I wish you all the best-

Answer 15

as long as she's been fed recently, has a clean diaper, and is comfortable then yes I think it's fine to try and let her cry herself to sleep but not for too long!!

since she seems to be awake alot-she might have gotten herself so exhausted she can't sleep (us adults do that too) and is now crying out of frustration. in which case, crying herself to sleep will help a great deal.

don't let her go too long though since she's so young. about 10-20 mins max if you can stand it (it's hard to hear our babies cry). after that, pick her up and try soothing her. she might just need the warmth and comfort of mommy's arms to help her sleep. if you have a rocking chair or swing-try rocking her to sleep and see if it helps. if not, a warm bottle of milk (or a feeding if breastfeeding) while being rocked might just do the trick

good luck and try to relax mom-babies don't come with manuals and it's ok for her to cry once and while-even at a month old.