My baby mama want me to pay for day care for our son and also pay child support, is this okey?

Question

the cost of the day care and the child support will live me with $50 every month

Answer 1

Your child didn't ask to be born. Pay half of everything it costs to raise that child from here on out. If you don't have enough money after that, get a 2nd job or a better 1st job. Don't be a deadbeat dad, this world has too many of them now.  

Answer 2

she should be using some of the money from the child support for the day care. it's not fair to you for you to pay for both.  

Answer 3

He is your child to so wheather your with the mom or not he's yours and you should pay half on everything.  Look at it this way.  Just support don't cover half of what it takes to raise a child.  It may cover some clothes, food, and toys, but does it cover everything they have to have?  Such as heat/air, water, gas to get them back and forth to places, a shelter, etc.  Some dads step up to the plate as a real man should and if all she is asking for is child support and day care then YES you should do that for your baby.  Good luck and I hope you are the dad your child needs and deserves.  They are only little once so enjoy!  

Answer 4

You and the mother are both responsible for the child's well being. You should sit down together and discuss all of the expenses for the child and go in on half since it took both of you to make the baby. If the baby does not live with you and the mother takes care of the other needs (drs visits, formula, diapers, food, toys, etc) then you should pay some sort of child support and contribute to raising the child. Maybe if paying the child care every month is too much, you guys can alternate who pays for it each month. I don't think that you should pay child support AND all of the day card. Either sit down and write out all of the baby expenses and split it in half or delegate which parent pays for what. One parent, whether the mother or the father, shouldn't be handling ALL of the expenses.

Answer 5

it depends on how much you pay in child support! a chld should be a 50/50 split with costs! if she pays all the bills, daipers/pullups, food,etc....then i think you should at least split the costs or something! unless she gets a good sum of money in child support, then she should use that money to pay for day care!

Answer 6

No its not ok if it only leaves you with 50 dollars a month. You have to live too.

Have you gone through the legals system?  You should cause they will only award her so much for child support so you will have enough money to live on per month.

I'm glad to here that you are will to pay for your child  but i do not agree with your ex wanting more than what you can afford. Good luck.  

Answer 7

You should pay what you can for the cost of taking care of your child, and the government has got to have a program in place where you are to cover the cost of child care that you cannot afford.  Here it is called the Department of Education that pays for child care and the Human Services Agency that pays for food as well as WIC (Women Infants and Children).  WIC is a program for the whole United States, I think.

So, you really should contribute your fair share to help pay for your baby.  Maybe you guys just need to recalculate exactly how much you can afford.  I'm not sure how it works with the child support program.

By the way, how much child care does your child need?  Are you available to watch him for some of that time?

Answer 8

depends is your child support court ordered?? if it is not I would suggest you get it that way... then it will be income based and she can only get so much... that is the best advice i would give.. because if  I didnt have it for my kids dad I wouldnt have any... so ur a man for paying anything.. Go YOU!!

Answer 9

Truthfully it is fair because if you would go to court most judges will make u pay that and part of all medical bills also.But if I were you I would just simply tell her you don't get payed that much if that is really the case and u can't afford the pay both full bills, and you will pay the child support because when it comes down to it that is what the child support is for,things like that most judges will also tell u that also.

Answer 10

First of all, you MUST go to court and there they will determine how much child support should be without making it impossible for you to live.DON'T give her ANY money unless it is court ordered because that will NOT count as child support (if it is not court ordered)  She could go after you for backed child support so I suggest you get on this ASAP.

There are many things to consider so nobody here can make a informed reply.

Go to court and safe gaurd yourself.

Answer 11

Yes pay up however much it is.

Harriet

Answer 12

it doesn't matter what you are left with, if you have to work 3 jobs to make ends meet you will have too.  If you hire an attorney, they will base your c/s & c/c on your salary & hers.  If she is not working the courts will base her salary on min. wage.  Or she can go thru the state to get c/s or c/c either way you have to pay, so get ready you the baby daddy.

Answer 13

I would only pay for one of them. It's not okay to only have $50 left. Child support is for taking care of a baby and I'd say that day care is part of that.