My best friend and I had s*x, what should I do now?

Question

Me and my best friend which is a girl were hanging out at her house one night and we decided to drink a lil. After a few drinks one thing let to another and we ended up making love for the first time, During which we expressed our undying Love for each other (she new I loved her before but she just wanted to be friends). The night was magical and I thought all my dreams and prayers came true. Then when mourning came she said it was a mistake and did not meant it when she said she loves me broke down crying. Later she says for me to give her space.I don't know what to do I love her with all my heart now. I confronted her and told her it wasent a mistake and that I loved her but her response was still the same. its been three days since we talked and I feel weak without her because even though I love her we see each other every day. I need to know what to do in this situation. What will happen to us? Will our Friendship be the same? Will she develop feelings for me? What should I do?I confronted her that same mourning and told her it wasent a mistake. But her respone was still the same. We let our feelings out and then thats when she told me she needs some space. Should I wait for her to call me? or should I call in a few days when she hasent called back? will she forget about me?

Also she said that she screwed up and when I told her she didnt she said and I quote " h**l yeah I screwd up, I slept with you. . .you enjoyed it. I dont even want to think about it"

can someone explaine to me that? I dont want to ask her cuz am not trying to press the issue.

Answer 1

Sorry to say, but your friend probably just got drunk and horny... she doesn't feel the same as you and you aren't going to be able to convince her that is wasn't a mistake.

Answer 2

everyone does stupid stuff when they are drunk, and to her, she messed up.

she thought she loved you the night before becasue the alcohol made her feel that way.

now the two of you have had s*x and that is something you can never take back.

shes confused.

she DOES remember what happened, otherwise she would not add the "thank god" bit, becauseshe  would knowto say thank god.

just give her the space she needs, and dont let her do that to you again.

Answer 3

My friends bro did that but he told her(by her i mean his friend) that he has feelings for her but did not mean it to go that far

hope it helps

Answer 4

Sadly for you this girl thinks that she made a really big mistake and in her mind it sounds like you will not be able to change that. She does not even want to think about it means just that. Pretty much she is disgusted. Sorry but that is just the truth. I would leave her alone and let her come to you if she wants.

Answer 5

well you guys are friends and that just happen, she needs to get to her sense don't rush anything. if it's mean to be she'll call you. or appologize to her. just let it cool off but after all she was drunk so i dnt think she felt anything.

i hope things works out between you two, if you guys still friend it'll be awkward tho.

Answer 6

well ...it's always tuff to judge where this kind of problem will go .....as for u and her friendship ...well that's for time to say but  i can say if u and her stay friends there will always be a steady uneasiness between u and her .....i'm not trying to give u the wrong advise but ....it might be better to forget the matter for the mean time ....wait till the problem has blown over ...then ask her how she feels about u and if she jumps 2 the defense back off the subject ...because it may trigger harsh feelings or words .....neither are good ..... as for the meaning of the quote ........you'll just have to try and put urself in her shoes ....i'm mean u'll never truly know how she feels about that night .....to her it's was a horrible horrible mistake that , she feels should have never happened .... I would not advise ever asking her the meaning of what she had said ...... these sort of things only u and her can fix in time ..... just take it really slow and easy , no matter how hard it is you cant try to speed things up .... and I know this because .....because that is where iI messed things up ......I hope this is helpful to you and i wish u good luck

Answer 7

thats why all you people asking "why not have s*x before marriage?" this is the true example why. now you just lost your virginity (the most prescious thing you had) to someone who doesnt even want you anymore. and dont get me wrong, im not trying to be rude, but im just giving you the truth, because i dont care if this answer gets choosen as best answer or not. im gonna be honest. now the best thing you can do is move on, and dont make the same mistake again. people do stupid stuff when their drunk, just be happy shes not preg or anything. next time make sure you love the person b4 having s*x, and dont do it when ur drunk, lol

Answer 8

I think she is trying to tell you the truth, and you don't want to hear it because you like her so much.

She said that she made a mistake, and it sounds like she wanted you as a friend only, but got too drunk and slept with you, and now she has no choice but to tell you she really doesn't want it to go any further. It hurts, but you need to listen to what she is saying, and accept the truth.

Answer 9

first it was a mistake on both parts. but its not somthing that you can change now. give her time and let her think things thru  

Answer 10

obviously she doesn't like what happened and is trying to put it behind her. She's told you that she doesn't really love you, so you should try to keep it as a friendship, although I don't think it'll ever be the same. Give her some time, then apologize to her. Don't keep chasing her and telling her that you love her bc you can't change how she really feels.