My best friend ended our friendship today?

Question

We've been friends for 5 years and lately I could tell that he wanted more but since i'm in a relationship I tried to ignore it. Today he told me that he can't be friends with me any more because his feelings are too strong for me and it hurts him to know that i'm in love with someone else. He went on to tell me how he really felt about me and then gave me a kiss on my lips and a tight hug and wished me the best in this relationship then left. I feel so awful right now because I love my friend so much and I could see that he was really hurt today and didn't really want to let go but had to. I've tried calling him this eveing but he wont answer and this got me really worried so I went to his house but he wasn't home. Why would he end a 5 year friendship over his feelings towards me?

Answer 1

Hello,sorry to here your friend said good bye.But if you give him the space he needs to work out his feelings, in time and that is unknown he will come around.His feeling belong to him and are not yours.You should not take responsibility for his feelings,after all they belong to him.You are in love with some one else at a different level.Love comes in many sizes I love all things on different levels,and some times it is hard to divide the love,from the feelings.Really give it some time.I have gone through this a few times now ,now all does work out for the best .Hope this has helped you Sincerelyy...  

Answer 2

it's pretty obvious. he loves you and wants you to be with him and not your bf. jealousy took over, and he couldn't handle it.

Answer 3

Because it was a 5 year friendship - a relationship between friends and he feels more than that now. You must realise how hard it is for him to have to move away from you emotionally because it's obviously causing him a great deal of pain. You have to be selfless and let him deal with things the best way he can. He will get over you and perhaps later on you'll renew your friendship again.

Answer 4

My brother told me a similar story about himself. It ended the

same way. Except that it was a girl. I cried when he finished lol.

He wants you, if you don't want him that way, there's nearly

nothing you can do. He's hurting.

Answer 5

If he won't answer his phone, it sounds like he might be trying to manipulate you.   Although he is a good friend, your rejection will make him use desperation such as manipulation.  Don't feel sorry for him, tell him you can't be his boyfriend because your already in love with someone else, and if he can't just be there for you as a friend, then he isn't a true friend at all.  Its BS that he would just cut you off, its a ploy that guys use, trust me on this one, if he likes you that much, he would stick around for hope.  Don't fall for his trap and explain to him the way it is.

Answer 6

He would probably end it due to the fact that he loves you, and he wishes you were his obviously. But it hurts really badly to love someone who doesnt love you the same way back

Answer 7

Like he said  " it hurts to know that you love someone else " . I think you were right to call him , after all  you were friends for 5 yrs. If he answers and you find out he is okay then you need to tell him that you respect his decision and you will let him get on with his life , but if he decides to contact you again that your door will be open . Think about it  , would you like to see the one you love in love with someone else day after day ? That would get very painful .

Answer 8

Um I see this was a g*y relationship. Well I'm straight so I cant really help you. But all I can say is that it hurt him just to d**n much when he couldn't get anything more then just friendship.

Answer 9

you know why, he wants to be with you. If you cant then forget about him

Answer 10

I think he did the right thing, It hurts to love and not get anything back in return. I think  if you give him some space, he can sort out his thoughts and feeling. If you guys are as good as friends as you say you are, then it will be fine. Maybe he just needs to find someone himself. Maybe you should be sure about your feelings too, its easy to hide them when you have a relationship to protect them behind. if you have no romantic feelings toward him at all, then give him his space, but if you do, than weigh your options wisely. Either way, I think you guys will be fine, in time.

Answer 11

he will probly continue to like you if you are still friends. its kinda a guy thing, rejection is often unacceptable.

Answer 12

He's in love with you, and you are in a relationship with another. It hurts him to know that he loves you, but your in love with another. It would be to much for him to handle full knowing that you do not feel the same for him.