My best friend has a boyfriend and yet she still runs to me..is this still right?

Question

me and my best friend wanted space from each other because she already has a bf.

i thought i was doing fine not knowing whats happening with her..

but in the end, i'll be here just waiting for her..

she was at the other end having problems..

i was here tryin to stay away..

but still end up wanting everything to be alright for her..

still end up wanting to be there for her as she goes through hardships...

I didn't want to get hurt so i decided to give us space.

now, her college life looks like slumping..

and she turns to not her boyfriend.. but me..

it hurts to see her that way..

i don't have the power to do anything but listen and give her advice..

i know im jealous of the fact that she has a boyfriend.

i guess we just got so used to each other that everything messed up when everything stopped between us...

its so hard for me..

i wanted to stay away..

but i can never change the fact that she needs me..

and i need her that badly..

i just asked her at the end of our conversation

"if and when you feel your already secured with your boyfriend, can i ask you to please allow me to leave?"

i know it seemed harsh.. but i don't want to get hurt anymore..

we both know how i feel about her btw..

Answer 1

your friend obviously values your opinion a lot. if you guys both need each other in your lives then you should have each other in your lives. your friend will always want to hang out with her boyfriend but that doesn't mean she doesn't want to hang out with you too. there's no reason to have too much space or ignore each other. let your friend have time with her boyfriend but stay best friends. if she doesn't want to turn to him and choses you instead let her. chicks over *****, as they say.

Answer 2

Honestly, it sounds like she feels the same way towards you as you do her. Be there for her that way WHEN NOT IF they break up you know you did everything you could. She will be back. Give her space (and give yourself some space) then Im sure you two will be good friends again...if not more! I hope I helped!!