My best friend has seriously hurt my feelings.?

Question

okay, so we got into a fight - blah blah blah.

i made up a list of reasons why she was annoying me, and she clearly took it the wrong way.

i was trying to make her see from my point of view, the kind of person she was being, and then she went up and about and said that i was using her. 0_o

i wasn't using her; i've been friends with her for almost 2 years now.

all of my other friends all take me as loving and caring.

i care about all of my friends.

i even stoop to the level where i basically do something for them to make them happy. /:

and this one girl doesn't even appreciate it.

and now, she's hurt my feelings by saying all these rude things and ignoring me and taking my reasons the wrong way.

what do i do? /:

Answer 1

Try confronting her . By doing that you may make her happy ! I manage to solve that problem to by making a heart to heart conversation about my friend. after that were closer than ever! Promise!

Answer 2

Okay. Try to see this from her point of view.

If someone gave you a list of reasons why you were annoying, would YOU be very happy with them?

She doesn't care how you meant it. Good intentions get you nowhere in situations like this. Your friend feels like you insulted her on a very personal level - by literally attacking her personality. The things you wrote on that list were part of who she is, whether you like it or not. You're asking her to change for you. Friends shouldn't have to change to make one another happy. There can be compromise, where you accept that nobody is going to perfectly get along with you (and believe me, there won't ever be a friend who doesn't annoy you in some way), but you can't ask another person to change their personality to better suit you.

She has every right to be mad. Don't expect her to appreciate a personal attack on her character. You were rude to her for doing this, even if you meant well.

The best thing you can do, if you still want to be friends, is apologize and tell her that you're willing to reconcile and accept your differences. If you don't care anymore, just tell her you're too different, and move on.

In the future, I would recommend not making lists of why people annoy you. If you care about them and want to be friends, you have to accept those things. No friend is going to be perfect.

Answer 3

Well, maybe you should try seeing it from the other girls point of view. Maybe it hurt her feelings and felt like it came out of nowhere! And she didn't know what to do so she was ignoring you. And friends are supposed to have things in common. Maybe she didn't change her dream job. Maybe that was one of her dream jobs, but she never really thought of it until you said it! Friends aren't supposed to send friends a list of why they are annoying. That is a way to END a friendship, not to KEEP one going. And how could she take it the wrong way if she got an email that said a list of ways she is annoying and/or coppied you and your sister??!! You would probably get mad and not want to be the girl's friend anymore, would you? You would probably do the same exact thing that the girl did. Ignore you and get mad at you! The friend wouldn't act like nothing ever happened; something did happen. =]

Answer 4

She obiviously isnt a true friend, People can change within two years, i recently lost my bff of 11 years and some times ppl just get bored w. each other for no absolute reason, If she doesnt value your opinion or want to listen to how you feel, dont waste your time, her loss, it might be hard to part away from her and move on but just remember that everything happens for a reason.  Hope this helps.

Answer 5

well i'm sure you hurt her feelings too by listing ways that she's annoying you and i think she might be ignoring you now because you said she was annoying, so if you really want her as a friend the only thing I can think of is for you to say you're sorry and if she doesn't apologize for what she said then she's just not worth being around