My best friend is Pregnant at 15yo?

Question

Ok I'm a guy and one of my good friends who is 15 just found out shes pregnant. What do I say to her to comfort her?

Answer 1

Just be there for her & tell her that you are there and that you will support her if she needs a friend. Tell her that age doesnt define how good of a mom you are.

She will be fine!

:)

Answer 2

just be there to talk to her if she needs it..she will need a good friend

Answer 3

Right now she is probably feeling a lot of emotions, including shame, fear, regret, isolation, etc.  The first thing is to let her know that you may not know what she is going through, but you are there for her judgement free.

Once the holy c**p feeling wears off, this girl has got to get a plan.  Are you the father?  Who is the father?  Is he in the picture?

For the sake of the baby she has got to get prenatal care, right now-no delaying.  She needs to be taking prenatal vitamins, eating healthy and not drinking, smoking or doing drugs.  If she doesn't want to tell her parents yet, she can get FREE medical care through your local county agency.  Look up family planning services on the internet.

If she is not going to continue the pregnancy, she needs to find out right now what her options are because they may not be available to a minor, and they are only an option for a limited time during the pregnancy.

If she wants to adopt the baby when he/she is born, then she needs to contact an agency now so that her medical care may be covered and she can arrange for the proper paperwork.

If she decides to keep the baby:  

First, she needs to understand that 15 is too young, period.  She is not educated enough to provide for herself or her baby.  She has too little life experience to know how to handle the pressures of being a new mom.  I'm 36, very well educated, middle class and happily married and it practically kicked my butt!  So understanding that she is too young, she needs to figure out how she can access help from the people around her.  

She must finish high school and go to college or trade school.  If she does not she will always be poor, dependent on others for help and her life will likely suck.  More importantly, the baby will have a very low chance of having a successful life either.  Even if it means home schooling and taking an extra year to finish, she must finish school.  

The bottom line is that your friend has made the worst possible mistake she can right now by getting pregnant.  Babies are always a blessing, but the responsibility is too great and too important for a 15 year old child to be handling it alone.  The mistake is made, and beating herself up won't change it.  She needs to figure out how to turn the situation into a positive one.  She needs to ask herself, why was she even having s*x yet?  I remember being 15, and I know that there is very little for the girl in the situation at that age.  Also, pregnancy is preventable- why wasn't she more careful?  These are mistakes she cannot make again!

Unfortunately, many girls in this situation don't take the moment to figure out how the heck they got so off track, and they drop out of school, get pregnant again, end up on welfare, and do a p**s poor job raising their kids.  Their life goes no where.  

Your friend must do whatever it takes to prevent the above situation from happening.  It is going to be hard!  She will feel crazy from the hormones, tired, overwhelmed, invisible and powerless.  She has to know that these will fade.  She has to get help from an adult.  I hope her parents are helpful , but if they are not, then she should see a social worker.  

Once you become a parent, regardless of the circumstances, your life is no longer your own.  You must do whatever it takes to provide a safe, healthy, nurturing, loving environment for the baby.  If she cannot do this, she should adopt the baby to someone who can.  There are free resources available through government agencies.  Probably a counselor at school could help set her in the right direction.