My best friend is finally happy but I'm not..?

Question

I apologize if this is too long.

So my best friend just got a girl friend, yes she is a L*****n, which I am totally fine with because I'm bisexual. And her gf is cool, I've known her for a long time and she's funny sometimes the 3 of us hang out. But when she told me they were dating, and when they made out idk why but I got in this bitchy mood that I knew was noticeable and I did not like it at all. I don't know what this feeling is the other day I said to myself "eh I'll be fine when they break up which hopefully is soon" and I'm starting to hate myself for it cuz this is the happiest she's been in a long time and I want her to be happy.

It's not jealousy because I love being single, and her gf is not my type at all. And I'm definably not going to tell her because I don't wanna kill the good mood shes been in.. so what do I do?

Answer 1

If you really DO like being single, you may just be sad because your friend has indeed found someone else that makes her happy.  You may feel like its not your job anymore, like you're unimportant, or you may feel abandoned even though your best friend is still there.  My advice is to tell her how you feel and make sure that you two still have loads of fun together without her gf around.  Also remind her that you're still here for her if she needs to talk.

Answer 2

I felt the same way when my best friend told me she was getting married.  I'm single by choice, although I have dated around casually.  I just don't want anything too serious right now.  But when she said she was getting married, I kept praying that something would go wrong and they'd break up.  I think it was just that I was jealousy of her happiness.  I am fine being single, but I didn't have anything else in my life to be happy about, but she is happy every day now.

Once she actually got married (I was in the ceremony), I felt better about everything!  I just needed to get over it and I needed reassurance that I was her best friend.  And I also needed something to be happy about, which ended up being that my best friend got married and chose me as her best friend!

So spend plenty of time with your friend and without her girlfriend around.  Get your old friendship back!  And just enjoy being her best friend.

Answer 3

the only thing you can do is tell her. id she doesnt want to listen just pray she doenst have to find out the hard way

Answer 4

It sounds like you just have a feeling of dislike for her. We all have that, sometimes not even for a reason. Maybe you didn't like it when they were making out in front of you or you think this girl might hurt your friend down the road.  For now, there's not really anything you can do about it. She sounds happy, but you never know what can happen.