My best friend is great, but when I'm with her, I fade into the woodwork? Guys only notice her...?

Question

She's really great, but she's very pretty (I have glasses, bad skin, and uneven teeth) and she's bursting with self-confidence. She's the queen of flirting, and she never considers that maybe I'm interested in a guy. They all flock to her.

You could say she's a bit of a bombshell. I love hanging out with her, just not around guys.

Am I just being jealous? Be brutal and tell me how to be better.

Answer 1

i am exactly the same way. my best friend is outgoing and im not, fortunately/unfortunately for me she just moved. anyway, i could tell you to be more outgoing, but thats way harder then it sounds. think of it this way, you cant change the way you look (for the most part) so you can either live with it and be happy and talk to ppl or be self concious. over time it will be easier to be yourself more. maybe you can get some beauty tips from your friend. i think you are jealous to a certain extent, but not in an unhealthy way so your fine

Answer 2

Yeah man just belive in ur own looks

Answer 3

    u r lacking some self-cofidence.she is pretty but ur not ugly,You just hav flaws,everyone has flaws,your friend has flaws,so don't think that she is prettier than u,cause you 2 are pretty

Answer 4

Yes, you are jealous.

Ask for some contacts, get some acne stuff & drink a lot more water. And maybe some braces or just whitening stuff.  

Answer 5

well you are being jelous

but i completely understand what your saying

my best friend is like SO pretty

and i know im not ugly, actually i think im pretty (not to sound conceted) but whenever im standing next to her i feel UGLY. lol

i have bad skin and glasses too, so i know where your coming from haha

i just always feel like guys like her first, talk to her first and if they cant get her, they go for me. it really sucks/

just tell her when you like a guy! if shes really your best friend shell back off him (and probably try to help you hook up with him!)

also, you gotta be confident! and if your really not, fake it. ACT like you know your the prettiest girl in the room, even if you dnt really think that. if you act that way, eventually youll start to believe it!

aaand of course, you gotta talk to the guys too. im sure you have a great personallity - let the guys see that!

this is what i do and it really helps me!

i feel alot better about myself now then i did a few months ago

i cant promise that guys are gonna "flock to you"

but you will feel better

and at least TALK to some really cute guys :D

oh and dont worry, there WILL be guys that like you and think your the prettiest girl in the world :)  

Answer 6

You don't sound jealous, just maybe a bit lonely.

Tell her when you like a specific guy, maybe she'll back off.

Get to know the guy by yourself, just the two of you, and work on being confident in what you are really all about, don't just try to copy her.

As for the physical stuff, can you try ProActiv, braces, make up? Drink a lot of water, use mineral make up- this will improve your skin, maybe you can get contacts?

Seems like your parents would have already helped you with this if they could, so maybe you can get a job and pay for some of it yourself?

I'm not being superficial, just realistic. You'll feel a lot more confident if you take charge of these things yourself.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I have a friend like that. I honestly just don't hang around her when she's with guys. She doesn't seem to mind. Sometimes I'm jealous, but if I just walk away, I soon forget about it. Surely you have other friends. Just walk away and talk to them for a while and cool off :)

-Madeline<33

Answer 8

You seem a bit jealous.  If you're into a guy, say something.  You can't expect her to know who you're into unless you say something.  Get some self-confidence, and speak up.

Answer 9

Get some self-confidence. There will ALWAYS be someone who looks better than you to someones standards. You can try to clear up your bad skin and if you really want to change, get contacts. It is always best when a guy gets to know you and not just your looks.

Answer 10

firat of all, guys aren't geese and i dont think they "flock to her"

just get braces ((get em while your young cuz everyone has them then)) && contacts

then get rid of your acne && take care of your skin

then you might be a bombshell too!

Answer 11

Being a bombshell isn't all about being "pretty."  I'm sure you are just as pretty, you just don't see it.  Confidence is key.  You cannot expect others to "love" you if you cannot love yourself first.

Answer 12

You want BRUTAL?

Yes you are being jealous.

When she's talking to the guys- you can jump in the conversation too.

Like "im not even paying attention to what your saying (friends name) because his eyes are so blue(s**y, hot, pretty)!!!"

You could get rid of your acne-if thats making you feel less s**y- Get some acne cream- I like ProActiv.

Glasses? Ever heard of Contacts. I wear O2optix. really comfortable cant even tell you havem in.

The teeth part..smile with a closed mouth if your so scared of people seeing your teeth.

Other wis e BUST IN THERE GIRL.

Throw your head back and show your confidence. Make KNOWN that "HEY IM HERE TO GUYS!"