My best friend is homophobic and I'm bi. How can I tell her?

Question

I just found out that she's afraid of bi's and g**s, and lesbians. It kinda hurt and I dont know if I can tell her.

Answer 1

Only one of my friends know about my preference and she doesn't even know the whole truth. The only reason I told her  I like girls is because she likes girls herself.

None of my  other friends know and I don't think I will tell them anytime soon. Maybe you should wait too.

Answer 2

haha! i like her answer.. kiss her.. then run.. anyway, well, my best friend is straight. but since she's the understanding type of girl, she accepts me as who i am and who i wanna be with. it really depends on your best friend. if she is a true friend, nothing should change, coz you are still you. the only thing is, you just like boys AND girls.

just be yourself. ;)

Answer 3

It might be a hard conversation, but you could be the one to change her mind.  I know a few people who claimed to be homophobic, but then they found out they were actually friends with homosexuals, and realized there wasn't a problem.  

If she's your real friend, she'll stay your real friend.  She will accept you.  If she doesn't, then obviously she doesn't really care about you, unfortunately.  

Maybe if she says anything homophobic, ask her why she feels that way, and explain to her how you just don't see limiting yourself to one s*x.  I'm bisexual, and fortunate enough that I've never had a problem with any friends.

Good luck, sweetie!

Answer 4

Just talk to her about her fears. No need to come out to her at this point but, as a friend, you could help her understand why she's fearful and help her overcome it.

Answer 5

My advice is NOT to tell her. I had friend many years ago that was like that. She was a great person in most ways but hated g*y people. I was closeted back then but I still tried talking to her about her closed mindlessness. She would bring up the bible as her reason and "proof" that g**s were nasty and wrong.

Anyhow, we got a job together and I met my first real girlfriend there... Needless to say that our friendship did not last. She had the nerve to say that I "mislead" her!  

Maybe if she's just "afraid" and not hating.. You could talk to her about g**s in general. Find out where her bias comes from. In the end you may have to move back from her.  

Answer 6

Hold off on telling her. If you really want to tell her, than you'll probably lose a friend. If you want to keep her as a friend, don't tell her and keep hanging out with her as if nothing is wrong. Kiss her if nothing else works. That will tell her... Then run...

Answer 7

She is homophobic and still your best friend? Tell her you are bi, and if she doesn't accept you send her to h**l.

Answer 8

there are 2 ways to tell her.

1. just tell her. if she doesnt accept you that is her problem

2. ask her to make love with you. (not suggested)