My best friend is in a manipulative relationship. He's getting married this weekend! What do I do?!?!?

Question

We were practically brothers, and now this girl has come into his life and I've seen him maybe 5 times in the past year. She's very controlling, spends lots of his money and is breaking him away from his friends and family. He just wants a girl, any girl. How can I stop this before it's too late?

Answer 1

It's none of your business, man.  You just sound jealous and petty.

Answer 2

If she has him wrapped around her pinkie, it's already too late.  He's p-whipped.  But just because you see these things that she's doing as manipulative, maybe he doesn't see it in the same light as you do.  Maybe he's been looking for that someone to give his life some guidance.  Has he actually confided in you that he's not comfortable with her spending his money or not seeing his family & friends as much?  He's going into the next stage of his life and he knows that there will need to be alot of compromise and sacrifices.  I'm sure the past year has been very hectic for him with the planning of the wedding and stuff.  It's normal to not have as much time to spend with his buddies. Maybe you're feeling like you're losing your best friend but that may not be the case...once he's settled into his marriage, he'll probably come around again to hanging out...but just don't expect him to do it as often as before like when you were bachelors.  Just be the same good friend when/if he needs a friend to talk to about any marital issues that pop up.

Answer 3

You can't stop it. I assume if your friend is getting married that he is an adult and therefore can make his own decisions. It is not your place to say anything.

Answer 4

It already is!!!

Answer 5

Be supportive for him, if you aren't he'll drift away from you more.  Maybe ask him if this is truly what he wants but don't put him down or his fiance.  He'll resent you and wont come to you when he's in need of someone to talk to.  Let him find out on his own that she isnt the "right one" .  He wont see it the way you do no matter what.  

Answer 6

Just talk to him. Let him know that you miss him and would like to spend more time with him. Don't say anything bad about her... but let him know that you care and want the relationship to be a positive one. Ask him how he is feeling about the whole thing and I realize this sounds pretty girly.. :) hope it helps.

Answer 7

got to your fried and ask him if he truly loves her

if he doesnt then tell him to rethink thing over and do it fast man hurry

Answer 8

I would just ask him if he is truly happy. Tell him to be honest. If he says he is happy then leave it at that. If not- you need to be honest. You will only have one chance at telling him how you feel. It's hard when your friends get into serious relationships because friends are no longer the most important people in their lives.

If he is really happy, don't take away from his day. If not you have to be careful what you say and how you say it because the last thing you want to do is make him so mad at you that he won't want to speak to you again.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Better stay out of it. This is what happens when people get married, he spends his money and time on her. If you try to interfere he will resent you and you will have lost a friend. Let him find out for himself.