My best friend mad at me, thinking that am "replacing her"?

Question

My best friend I've known since kindergraden thinking am replacing her see, because she thinks my guy friend I hang out wit sometimes is replacing her. she thinks I like him more than a friend so that what she thinks, hes like a brother to me plus hes g*y. am not sure if she knows it like everyone knows it though. She thinks am putting someone I like more than a friend before her(which isnt true! I wouldnt do that to her!!!)anyways so at lunch she told me to meet her at this spot and am like sure so I waited and waited she didnt show up so I met up wit my guy friend and so we get something to eat, cuz i was like really hungrey if i didnt eat anything I would like faint. and she is really mad at me for that she thinks am "replacing" her wit a guy and I try talking to her about it and all she told me that I was an effin b!ccth hes an effin b!tcch, am selfcentred, and she told me shes gonna replace me with her other friend or somethig, and her friends are telling her that am selfish and I only care about myself and just to ignore me. am like they've never met me or talked to me before who are they to talk. idk wat to do I just want us to be friends again, without this whole war thing.:(

Answer 1

This is a difficult situation, but you have to try to put yourself in your friend's shoes and look at it from her perspective. She's seeing you hang out more and more with this boy and she feels threatened. She feels like maybe you are enjoying his company more than her's and that you're drifting away from her towards someone else. Since she doesn't know he is homosexual, it seems to me that she isn't very good friends with him, and that threatens her more.

Talk to her about how she feels. Get her alone and sit her down privately and just have a long conversation about it. Tell her what's going on. Tell her you love her and that you'd never replace her. You need to show her that you are being serious and that you speak the truth.

-Dee