My best friend no longer turns to me but instead turns to my boyfriend...?

Question

My best friend lives with her boyfriend and my boyfriend as well. Whenever her and her bf get into a fight she always turns to my bf and not me. It's at the point where I don't even know what is going on in her life unless my bf tells me. She doesn't tell me anything anymore she tells him instead. I don't know whether or not to trust them or question them. They have never given me a reason not too and I don't want to seem like a jealous b**ch but something just feels off. I don't want to lose my best friend but I already feel like I have. What do I do?

Answer 1

I know how you feel =[

My boyfriend and best friend are like bro and sis...

but sometimes i get the impression that my best friend wants more from him.

I cant say anything because like you said it would make me look like a jealous B****...and i dont want my boyfriend to stop being friends with my best friend just because of me.

So what you can do it talk to your best friend and tell her that you dont feel like she confides in you anymore and you want to be in her life and help her as much as you can.

Go and hang out just the 2 of you and have a girls night and talk to her then. Im sure she just goes to the first person that she sees and since she lives in the same house as ur boyfriend she prob sees him often and therefore when she has a fight hes there and she confides in him over you. But you cant be sure until you talk to her.

Hope this helped!!!

Good Luck!!! =]

Answer 2

find out and if she is ******* with ur bf the drop the bee atch

Answer 3

Tell your friend that you're hurt that she won't confide in you anymore.

Answer 4

Honestly, in my experience with friends of both sexes... its 1 of two things. 1: she may just want a guy's opinion and considering your bf lives with her, he probably knows her and her bf better than you. Also, since they live together it may be more convenient to confide in him as he is there and can talk to her anytime. 2: she is just using her "bad bf situation" to gain your boyfriend's  sympathy and attention. If she isnt keeping you in the loop she isn't really your friend. The fact that she isn't confiding in BOTH you and your boyfriend is what screams SHADY. Go with your gut. If you feel like somethings not right, it probably isn't. If you do lose your friend, and you might, it won't be your fault. Don't blame yourself. If she is really using these methods to hurt you then she deserves the bad relationship she's in. Honestly, if her relationship is so bad why does she stay with her bf and better yet, why does she live there?! I suggest you telling your boyfriend the situation makes you uncomfortable. If he doesn't respect your feelings, confront your "Friend". If no one is willing to keep your feelings in mind, cut them out of your life. You may not realize it now, but you are better off that you don't live there. It doesn't sound like a place you want to be.  

Answer 5

She likes him..

Answer 6

sounds like a sticky situation...try talking to her? ask her whats up, dont completely give up on them, she might be going to your bf b/c she needs advice w/ her own? and ur bf knows her bf better..if that makes sence, but yah, be patient w/ them, and try to get some inside and details, be nice to ur best friend(of corse) and be a best friend to her even if she isnt acting tthat way towards you! she'll relize soon enough that ur there for her

Answer 7

for 1 why aren't u living in the house with them and y do u trust that everything is kosher u don't know what goes on when u aren't there and when u r look for things that seem different cause i know when my ex lived with his buddy and his buddies wife my guy tried hitting on his buddies wife and they were friends for a while so don't trust anything that don't seem right and ask why she is going to him and that he is ur man and she should back off

Answer 8

the obvious thing to do is to confront her.

come on girl you don't need yahoo answers to tell you that.

Answer 9

Sometimes when you feel something strange is because...well it is!   Yeah I agree, she shouldnt be coming to your guy with all her problems becareful!  

I might get a few thumbs down for this one, however, Im gonna give you some advice, i practice what I preach by the way!

First of all, i have been with my hubby for 8 yrs now, and I NEVER have left him alone with any of my female friends.   Even the ones I considered close.   (We are no longer close by the way)  Why?  Because all humans have weaknesses, thats why, and the more time you spend getting to know someone, the chances are higher that you will like them.  

My guy NEVER leaves me alone with any of his guy friends either!   He even says, when we live alone, no other dude will come to visit my house...they are gonna be lookin at my woman and I cant have that!   It's true...people have eyes, and if they like what they see chances are they will flirt and do more than that.

Is he cheating on you?  We cannot tell you, we dont know.   I dont think he is, I just think that girl is trying to come on to him.  Watch your back, and you should confront her about it.  

Answer 10

you really should talk to her about how you feel. it's isn't right for her to turn to your boyfriend instead of her best friend. i don't think that the boyfriend cares about your friend's problem cuz he's telling you what she said. so talk to your friend.

hope i helped. =]  

Answer 11

you should talk to her about how you feel about her talking to your bf and ask her why she being like that.  

Answer 12

For this situation I would talk to your bf about it. Maybe she just needs to talk to a guy about other guy problems. Don't worry she just needs to talk to someone else about some problems. Also, you would talk to her about if she was a real friend she'd understand your point of view and listen and explain what she meant by it.