My best friend of almost 15 years has kicked me out of her wedding for no reason. What should I do?

Question

I have two very best friends, one of whome kicked me and our other best friend out of her wedding. Mandi sent Lori a letter letting her know that she would like her to call more often instead of only using the texting on her phone especially when it came to things concerning her wedding. Lori blew up and kicked both of us out of her wedding saying that we didn't want her to get married and we were not supportive. In all fairness Mandi and I weren't thrilled because not only has the soon to be bride has been cheating on her future husband for months but she moved the wedding up by over a year and expected everyone to change their plans in just a few months. This has been bothering me to no end. I feel like she doesn't care about Mandi or myself, she can't even give me a reason as to why I was kicked out of her wedding being that it was Mandi that wrote her a very nice letter just simply asking her to call instead of texting everything and I didn't do anything. I really want to let her know how I feel but she always thinks she's right and that we are against her. Should I still go to the wedding?

Answer 1

Don't go to the wedding.  Even if you decide you and Mandi want to still be friends with her, she is so upset that she just doesn't want you around right now.  Going to the wedding will only upset her further, and make everyone uncomfortable.  Plus, if she is totally out of control, you don't want her to make a scene at her own wedding.  Stay away from the wedding and any bridal showers, etc.  You and Mandi plan something to do together the day of the wedding that will be fun for both of you.  If you want to, maybe after a few weeks/months you can renew your friendship with Lori if you choose to.  

Answer 2

She is cheating on her fiance and treating her friends like c**p. Personally I think she is a b*i*t*ch and you should just ignore her completely.

Answer 3

You all sound like drama queens and that type of person can't keep friends - sounds more like you're acquaintances rather than best friends.

Answer 4

This person is not a friend and not someone you should continue to have in your life. Sounds like the friendship is one sided. Don't bother anymore and don't go to the wedding. It doesn't sound like you are welcome there anyway.  

Answer 5

How are you friends with such a person?

Unless you are similar in her attitude, lifestyle and treatment of others... do you really want to be associated with someone like this?

Remember: Birds of a feather fly together.

Answer 6

No..I'd end the friendship too...sounds like she's not much of a freind anyway...she certainly is a faithless cheater-not a very good personality trait and it shows the person she really is...selfish & self absorbed...good luck.

she's lucky if you two don't retaliate by informing her FH she's cheating...what a dangerous game she's playing all ways around, lol...take the high road on that tho..she will be exposed on that eventually...good luck.

Answer 7

try to forgetjust one time

Answer 8

I'm not sure if you're in her bridal party, but regardless, she shouldn't treat anyone this way, least of all her 2 best friends. I would explain to your friend (if she is willing to listen) that given the recent events, you will not attend her wedding.

Unfortunately, being a bride brings out the worst in some women who are fixated on their day and having things their way; what they fail to realize is that it's one day, and hopefully your friends and friendships are forever. You need to ask her if she is willing to wreck your friendship for the sake of one day. On second thought, it seems like she's made that pretty clear.

I've been in this situation and sympathize with you. Good luck and all the best.

Answer 9

Don't go where you're not wanted.  ^..^